• LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    4 months ago

    But it’s often phrased like a “need”. I’m attracted to men and women. I don’t need them like I need oxygen, food, nicotine etc.

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      Need for companionship falls under “social” in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, right above physiological needs (like you listed) and safety.

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      When people are young adults, their attraction to their preferred sex is peaking, maybe you’re different, but for most people it does feel like a need.

      Not that OP actually mentioned ‘need’ anywhere in their long post…

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        Well sure maybe during puberty, but after you just adjust surely, nah? I mean there’s lots of men with like horrific disabilities, disfigurements etc. that just make it highly unlikely they’ll ever find a mate, yet they live nonetheless.

        Yes that’s why I said “it’s phrased like…”.

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          Some people dont have that need, some people commit suicide because that need is never fulfilled. For me, my reasons are simple. There is nothing in this world worth living for except other people. Everything else is material.

          Id also like to have someone who wants to do things with me. Games, hiking, etc. Someone who shares a lot of my interests.

          But what I need, is someone to sleep next to. Everyday I wake up without anyone to wake up to I’m hit with such an uncontrollable depression that it really reinstills how much I despise the mechanisms of this world.