• Washedupcynic@lemmy.ca
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    18 hours ago

    Traditionally, men have been taught that to get married or have a partner, they need to be the breadwinner. This is partly due to women not having the right to own property, have a bank account, or credit cards until the 1960s/1970s. This means that there is a subset of men raised to believe having a job makes them an attractive partner, and that’s the only thing they need to be an attractive partner.

    Women on the other hand, have been entering the workforce, and the pay gap has narrowed. Now women make on average $0.85 to every dollar a man makes. Women can be and are financially independent. So now, as a man or potential partner, you have to bring more to the table than having a job.

    I think this has led to the incel crisis. You have a subset of men that are emotionally stunted because they were not taught better; while women have a the peace and security that independence brings and they aren’t going to disrupt that for just anyone.