Thats how it is when you’re mature and comfortable with your life. I’m in my 40s and text my buddy once a season and hang out every other year. We got separate lives.
Honestly every time I see these posts, it just comes off like they’re young and used to that school life where their friendship was based on if they went to the same class or not.
I don’t think you’re a credible source in this scenario. Maybe you’re right and everyone is cool, but I would not be surprised at all if someone in your friend group had been hurt by your infequency.
I have friend dynamics that are the same way. Both sides do the same thing, dropping stuff for a while, weeks or months, and picking back up when energy returns, or there’s something to share. A burst of connection that picks up exactly where we left off, regardless how long it’s been. I wouldn’t be friends with people who aren’t ok with this, because it just wouldn’t last that long. I don’t have anything worth saying a lot of the time, and it feels weird to try to find something to say anyway just to stay in contact, so meh. No thanks.
As with the seasons, there is a natural cycle to such things, and as long as everyone involved is confident the cycle will repeat as it has always done, there’s no need to fear or resent the cold winters. :)
Like I said, we have literally just talked about this topic specifically because we’ve had these concerns and are adults who speak to each other.
Sounds like you’re projecting, don’t just go online and assume you know better about people’s relationships than them. This isn’t r/datingadvice, if you feel that’s appropriate, go back to reddit
One sided friendships are not worth it.
I mean I don’t text or call my friends for months or years, I still consider us lifelong friends
Thats how it is when you’re mature and comfortable with your life. I’m in my 40s and text my buddy once a season and hang out every other year. We got separate lives.
Honestly every time I see these posts, it just comes off like they’re young and used to that school life where their friendship was based on if they went to the same class or not.
How do they feel about it? Are you sure? How do you know?
Fine, because when I do meet them I actually talk to my friends and discuss things and reminisce like adults
I don’t think you’re a credible source in this scenario. Maybe you’re right and everyone is cool, but I would not be surprised at all if someone in your friend group had been hurt by your infequency.
But maybe!
I have friend dynamics that are the same way. Both sides do the same thing, dropping stuff for a while, weeks or months, and picking back up when energy returns, or there’s something to share. A burst of connection that picks up exactly where we left off, regardless how long it’s been. I wouldn’t be friends with people who aren’t ok with this, because it just wouldn’t last that long. I don’t have anything worth saying a lot of the time, and it feels weird to try to find something to say anyway just to stay in contact, so meh. No thanks.
As with the seasons, there is a natural cycle to such things, and as long as everyone involved is confident the cycle will repeat as it has always done, there’s no need to fear or resent the cold winters. :)
Like I said, we have literally just talked about this topic specifically because we’ve had these concerns and are adults who speak to each other.
Sounds like you’re projecting, don’t just go online and assume you know better about people’s relationships than them. This isn’t r/datingadvice, if you feel that’s appropriate, go back to reddit
I didn’t make assumptions about your relationships. Please read more carefully.
You really did when you said
Which is a MASSIVE assumption about their relationship, which you have one point of context for. That being a comment on the internet.
I don’t agree a “maybe” is a “MASSIVE” assumption. Maybe they’re telling the truth. But maybe they’re wrong.