• MinnesotaGoddam@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Which explains why they hate bi men, nonbinary folk and intersex people so persistently. Not queer enough for y’all. Hence why I left them out of the acronym.

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      23 hours ago

      I’m sorry. I’m not on blahaj.

      Bigotry towards bi men and non-binary folk seems very much not like them.

      Are you a bi man or non-binary person? If so I would be interested hearing what sort of discrimination you faced at blahaj. I recommend them quite a bit but would rather not if they are hateful in that way.

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          No, but I’ve seen my fair share of concern trolling.

          I am neither a bi man nor nonbinary and care, but I value my time.

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            Okay, so a fair amount of what I’ve seen is bi erasure, and as far as nonbinary bigotry, it’s pretty similar. Nonbinary folk don’t truly exist, whatever that means, and are either male or female kind of how bisexual folk are whatever their current relationship is. The women’s stuff community on blahaj professes to be Trans and nonbinary inclusive but if you are not explicitly female they will harass you with a candy coated “fuck off, you are not female enough”. Not really seen much on else blahaj but have from blahaj users.

            Complete AOL blast bullshit, but I figured it wouldn’t take Nazis long to take over blahaj. It’s the sort of thing they’d find funny.

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              Counterexample of one, but I’ve commented in womensstuff before as a genderfluid person and have not been asked to leave the space.

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                i’ve commented several times, sometimes explicitly saying i’m nonbinary, and their sexual harrassment bot repeatedly pings me. I’m now banned there because i lost my temper and said fuck off to the bot. after being sexually harassed by the bot. which, you know, is a normal response to being sexually harassed, but the instance admins like their premeditated sexual harassment bot, so the ban stands.

                i just want to block the community, but until i’m unbanned.

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                  14 hours ago

                  I do hang out with them a lot. A lot of my favorite communities are there. I see no Nazi tolerance at all there let alone “taking over” I also see none of this bigotry that you say is there. Contrarily, I see an active anti bigotry set of rules policies and guidelines in general. In the community culture I also see a strong belief in the stated values.

                  I am willing to change my views on the instance but what you claim, I am just not seeing.

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                    14 hours ago

                    so like, all i can say is I’ve had conversations with my WASP mother about ableism. she’s an ableist fuck. she does not see it anywhere. trying to get her to see why putting the food that a slightest bit of cross-contamination will put me in the hospital right the fuck next to my dinner plate is not a microaggression but is in fact a macroaggression took years. Like, a fucking decade and we finally had to take it to a sparring ring and formally fight it out (we both have martial arts training but had until then never sparred each other. at the time i was skin, bones, and she had 70 pounds on me but i had a two belt advantage. healthy weight i have a 20 pound advantage. we agreed to throw real punches and kicks, we wore pads, went to 10 and i won by 5 points) and that was the only way i could get her to stop trying to poison me.

                    My point is: if it’s not a bigotry that affects you directly, most people miss it entirely. Very very few people are sensitive to bigotry as a theme.