Like if you follow your example I don’t think the response is generally “I’m upset because you think I’m bad” but rather a declining respect for person generalizing a complaing.
The other thing is in dating women usually want to identify violent men (which a portion of men are) so you do want to trip their anger while you’re still in public and see how they respond. So I think that in a dating scenario specifically the role reversal becomes nonsensical (there’s just statistically less violent women to suss out so the the dynamics on what’s being evaluated is different).
I’m not saying this is good way to press people’s buttons, but it is a way to do it and I don’t really understand people taking things personally in this dynamic.
Like if you follow your example I don’t think the response is generally “I’m upset because you think I’m bad” but rather a declining respect for person generalizing a complaing.
The other thing is in dating women usually want to identify violent men (which a portion of men are) so you do want to trip their anger while you’re still in public and see how they respond. So I think that in a dating scenario specifically the role reversal becomes nonsensical (there’s just statistically less violent women to suss out so the the dynamics on what’s being evaluated is different).
I’m not saying this is good way to press people’s buttons, but it is a way to do it and I don’t really understand people taking things personally in this dynamic.