• A_norny_mousse@feddit.org
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    5 days ago

    The problem that I see with trying to create subtle but universal signals is that if everyone knows them, they’re now just overt messages.

    Well I assumed it’s a different drink in every bar. And advertised in the women’s toilet.

    edit: Sorry, bathroom

    • Cevilia (she/they/…)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      You’re right. If they’re doing it right, bars won’t suggest “angel shots” any more, because abusers recognise that signal too. They’ll have their own signals posted on the wall in the women’s toilets. The simplest one I’ve seen is one of those remote doorbell thingies in one cubicle, the idea being you lock yourself in the cubicle, ring the bell, and don’t open the door until the bouncer arrives.