Tell someone you nave no friends and they look at you like you’ve confessed to a crime.
Not because having no friends is actually some terrible thing, but because society has placed so much value on being social that people automatically assume something must be wrong.
The average 18 year old is expected to have a big circle, constantly go out, spend hours on calls, and always be surrounded by people. For an extrovert, that might sound perfect. For someone who enjoys solitude, it can sound exhausting.
I can’t even remember the last time I spoke for 5 minutes straight, and honestly, I’m completely okay with that. But the second you say something like that, people rush to remind you that humans are social creatures, as if everyone’s ideal amount of interaction has to be the same.
Maybe someone is genuinely okay with having O social connections. Not one friend. Not a group chat Not a social circle. Zero.
That doesn’t automatically mean they’re lonely, broken, or living life incorrectly. It might simply mean they find fulfilment in different things and don’t feel the same need for social interaction that most people do.
At the end of the day, the important question isn’t how many people you have around you. It’s whether the life vou’re living actually works for vou.
Here’s a tip: If you don’t tell anybody that you have no friends, they won’t know. Perhaps it’s not the part about not wanting to have friends that makes people suspicious, but rather the need to constantly tell other people about it?
If it works for you without friends, that’s ok. But how many times do you want to repost that?
He needs some friends to give him validation.
I’m reality “I have no friends”
Other person: mentally calculating if someone just unloaded their traumatic mental baggage on me and what action I should take next
It’s not that people think it’s bad that you have no friends, it’s because that sounds like a cry for help.
I once had someone come up to me , the first time hanging out at my house when I was 16, waiting till everyone else wsnt out and asking me “do you think it’s okay to cry?”
I must have had the same reaction, getting all wide eyed and confused and just saying “uhhh, yeah?”
It’s not disdain, it’s panic you’re seeing
This belongs on a rant community. It’s a shitty shitpost
Aw you deleted the other (identical) post. :( was it because I said it’s not exactly beloved behaviour to post the same thing over and over? Because simply deleting the evidence doesn’t help much. Also, why do you, of all people, care what people think about your behaviour? I have so many questions.
Do you want friends?
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Do you need a hug?
We’re an animal sociable by nature, of course someone not social stands out
