I think my ex wife really screwed with my understanding of the world. One of the things she convinced me of was that the “things I like to see on women are only worn to attract men”
She is partially right. Some women wear sexy clothes because they want attention and/or they feel pressured to, so they might wear them, even if they don’t like them.
Some women like the way they look and feel in sexy clothes, so they just wear them for themselves. It’s not necessarily for male (or any other gender’s of interest) attention.
In my experience, the former happens less. I’m not sure if it’s due to the crowd I hang out with changing or a gradual cultural shift.
“Hey, Earl, can you pick a new track?”
“Why? I love these guys.”
“Martha’s gonna be here any minute, and I feel like she’s not going to enjoy hearing rap music from this guy ranting about his bitches are all crazy and need to respect their man.”
“Man it’s just music. But fine, if you’re so prude.”
Martha: “Hey guys, I’m here-OOH, I love this song! 🎶These bitches, they so craaay-say…!”
See TIL.
I think my ex wife really screwed with my understanding of the world. One of the things she convinced me of was that the “things I like to see on women are only worn to attract men”
I’m learning a lot still it turns out.
She is partially right. Some women wear sexy clothes because they want attention and/or they feel pressured to, so they might wear them, even if they don’t like them.
Some women like the way they look and feel in sexy clothes, so they just wear them for themselves. It’s not necessarily for male (or any other gender’s of interest) attention.
In my experience, the former happens less. I’m not sure if it’s due to the crowd I hang out with changing or a gradual cultural shift.
It’s mainly this:
One of my similar learnings:
“Hey, Earl, can you pick a new track?”
“Why? I love these guys.”
“Martha’s gonna be here any minute, and I feel like she’s not going to enjoy hearing rap music from this guy ranting about his bitches are all crazy and need to respect their man.”
“Man it’s just music. But fine, if you’re so prude.”
Martha: “Hey guys, I’m here-OOH, I love this song! 🎶These bitches, they so craaay-say…!”