• Spice Hoarder@lemmy.zip
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    Quick someone share this with the math people on here. There has to be some sort of incredible theorem here

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    18 hours ago

    Can I uninvite the whole wedding and save $25,000? No, it’s expected of me to spend that money.

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      Eloping was one of the best decisions my wife and I ever made. We still spent a bunch, but it was for the two week vacation that went along with the elopement instead of 3-4x that for a single day.

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        This is what we plan to do. Makes no sense to throw all that money away for a silly ceremony where you’re bound by what everyone else expects of you. We’d rather do something special for ourselves.

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      If it’s expected, you have a circle of friends that do not really align with your idea of a good life. Sounds harsh, but please, I’ve been to fun weddings that were had at maybe 3k€ and nobody left hungry or thirsty and the close family guests from far away were even booked rooms nearby.

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        16 hours ago

        I won’t say that’s impossible but claims like that need a year, country, and count of guests.

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            Ok, I can see that pricepoint with those metrics.

            In my wedding culture (African), a small wedding has 60 guests, and a respectable one cracks 100. If you’re doing that anywhere in the West, you’re racking up a charge even if you’re trying to be frugal.

            But it also doesn’t feel good for many people to have to scrimp and save on one of the few big social events of adult life, besides the funeral.

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    20 hours ago

    List of people

    Everyone gets two votes. Can vote people up or down

    Everyone with negative votes can’t join

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      Y es, un the sense that if you are invited, someone uninvites you, then you can plus one yourself.

      But if you bring a plus one they can me minus one’d and you can’t do anything to prevent it.

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        someone uninvites you, then you can plus one yourself.

        No, self-votes should not count because then everyone will just self-vote and no actual consensus building is taking place.

        If you get downvoted, hope that you have at least one friend who cares about you being there

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          If you self vote, you don’t get to bring anyone. Even with self voting you can get -1’d twice. Otherwise you can +1 your date, the you get -1’d and your date goes alone. Which has a high likelihood of meaning that they won’t go either

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        Hmmm this is actually pretty genius.

        If you think someone might not want you, but you really want to be there, plus one yourself.

        But if two or more people minus one you, then you’re still not going.

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          Holly shit I do not know how you managed to read my message. I had auto correct set to Spanish.

          I was picturing something realtime. You get an app where you can type your +1 and you get a list of all the guests. You tap someone you get to -1 them. At any point you might get a notification hat you have been -1’d and you can go +1 yourself and bring no one. If you are not +1ing your self then your +1 can get -1’d in which case you can’t invite someone else (I’d love to make it so that you can change your +1 to someone else but then the other person might change their -1 to the new person and it turn into a cycle, or -1 are permanent and prone to abuse)

          As a fun option you can sell your -1 if you don’t plan on using it

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    I’ll be choosing myself as the minus one, I’d love to come but rules are rules, have a lovely evening.

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      And if two people uninvite each other, does that remove their uninvite-privilege, thus making the uninvite invalid and creating a paradox? Or would they have to fight for it over a lava pit or a chasm with either swords or massive cotton swabs?

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    If “come alone” is one of the options, does that imply that in order to uninvite someone you have to yourself avoid attending?