It doesn’t hurt to educate yourself. There are great instruction videos which help you with techniques. Like how to find the g-spot (and clitoris as many can’t even find that) and how to do cunnilingus and fingering. But most importantly how to get your partner in the mood, making her all riled up and explode. Use the entire body, find the sensitive spots, play with them, read your partner, don’t just focus on fucking and cumming.

Nina Hartley has many good videos for example. Don’t use porn as a guide, the focus with porn in general is right angles for the viewers, not show you how it’s done properly.

I’ve had nothing but compliments from my partners. My current partner (who had many partners before me) told me I gave her first double orgasm and she never comes as hard (by far) as with me. Also knowing what you’re doing makes you more confident and in case you’re poly, your partner is a great business card for other women.

Same goes for women. Knowing how to rouse up your partner by finding all the sensitive parts on your partner’s body and how to do a proper blow job is key to success.

Even basic things like kissing techniques and some massaging techniques can already improve your overall performance and improve your ratings.

And don’t forget to communicate with your partner. They are the best guide to their body and what works and what doesn’t. And you for yours.

But first and foremost: consent is key! Respect each other’s boundaries!

For me a whole world opened up when I learned about techniques and how to experiment with kinks. My partners also really appreciate talking about it openly, without judgements.

Enjoy! Be better!

Checkmate

me irl (cuz i don’t want to sex)

Me_irl 😂

But yeah, foreplay helps and sex doesn’t have to be *just* intercourse, and communicating your wants and needs with your partner (& vice versa) is key.