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  • FishFace@piefed.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldSafety
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    12 hours ago

    Having sold a few things online, it’s fairly common for one person to chat online and another to have over/receive the money. The person chatting is the person who is most interested in the item; the person handing over is the person who has the time on the day.






  • FishFace@piefed.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldThe epiphany hits hard
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    3 days ago

    The negative aspect of nationalism and tribalism, as I see it, is when it’s turned negatively towards others, rather than positively towards oneself. Seeing “I’m from X so I’m better than you” is bad, but saying “I’m from X so I enjoy Y” is just culture. Keeping a connection with your culture can give you a valuable comfort - senses of belonging and community that are otherwise hard to replicate.

    It does sound like you’re the kind of person who wouldn’t feel what I’m describing though. I don’t mean that negatively either, but just to say that I’m trying to explain what I mean not to say that you ought to feel bad.



  • Language is a major part of a person’s identity, usually - it has ties to their ethnicity and culture and because it’s fundamental to expressing yourself it’s fundamental to being yourself. Few people can express themselves as well in a language they didn’t speak in their earliest years, too, though that’s a large exception, and of course it’s not all of the remainder.

    So I see it as sad in the same way that anything that disconnects someone from their roots is sad - if you grow up eating certain foods and later don’t have access to them, for example, but more fundamental.



  • I heard a story about someone who through a combination of moving country at a particular developmental point and not taking enough steps to learn, ended up not having native-level language skills in either their native language or the language where they ended up.

    The prospect kind of terrified me






  • You see, when you do that - when you take what I said, then change it (from “unfiltered” to “at all”) based on nothing except your own biases, that leads you to wrong conclusions.

    Also there are a number of differences between the analogy of trauma dumping and the actual situation of relentlessly posting defeatist shite everywhere that mean you need to keep them separate in your mind and are apparently failing to do so.

    Your unwillingness to listen, understand and respond to what I’m saying is again noted. Goodbye, and try to learn either emotional regulation or reading comprehension; whichever skill it is you lack.



  • You can be any amount unhappy. I can only imagine from this question that you don’t understand that you can be experiencing an emotion like unhappiness without expressing it unfiltered.

    Well, some people - especially children - have trouble with that, but part of growing up is learning emotional regulation. If you’ve not heard of the term before, look it up, because it is exactly the difference that you seem to be unaware of.

    You could make the situation more concrete: suppose someone is not depressed, but is recently bereaved and so extremely unhappy. Their dead spouse or parent comes to mind very frequently. Is it a) helpful and b) acceptable for them to talk about their bereavement every single time it occurs to them? The answer to both is “no”. Doing so upsets other people without benefitting the bereaved person. Of course, that person does need to talk about how they feel sometimes to someone. Not doing so can be very harmful in the long run. But not at all times to everyone, which is what I’m talking about. They’re still deeply sad, but thanks to their ability to regulate their emotions, don’t force everyone else to deal with their sadness.

    The same thing applies to any emotion, from any cause.