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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • I knew someone who had to pass a class where the failure rate was 85%. The worst part is this was only one of a few of these classes. She was studying physics, and even though I really don’t want anything to do with her now for unrelated reasons, I still feel bad for her.

    It would never happen as described in this post, but things like this are way more common than people think.

    I still remember teaching >3 people a subject, because they asked me to, and then we all did the exam and I was the one who failed it. Now I’m, not error-proof but that’s kind of ridiculous. I have experienced a truckload of these things but that one illustrates very well how random and/or unfit for purpose most exams are. It’s like a coin flip +/- 5% depending on the depths of your studies beforehand.










  • I am constantly changing what I’m doing. I have been more selective and less selective over time. I have switched to a different dating app. Now there’s more people, but still no matches. I even got a friend helping me match people just so I am not too picky or anything. He also looked through my profile and said it’s fine. I am quite nerdy but every now and again I end up in random places trying out new things. Because of my preconditions I really can’t do this as much as I would like because otherwise I would go insane, so unfortunately that’s something I cannot change. Don’t get me wrong I will still try because giving up would suck even more but at this point I’m also starting to fight loneliness and depression again, which tbh was just a matter of time because of these things. I did therapy, I tried to grow and change, I did all of it. In fact, my self-optimization can at times be an issue in itself, which I have been trying to fix for the past 2 years, and I am aware of the irony.

    What I’m saying is, if this is the way to find a partner, I might die before getting there, one way or another, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you never know what or when you’re doing things right or wrong.

    I also realize that I’m sounding like an incel, but the truth is I effectively am. I definitely don’t wanna become old and bitter but everything is signalling me to give up.


  • Been doing it for a few months now and no matches. Rejected 4 times in real life. Also, because of other preconditions my capacity for social interaction is very limited.

    I hate when people say “just put in some effort”. I’m doing it, I’m giving it all I have but I did so for about 10 years now and I got nothing. I don’t hate the people that rejected me but this can’t be normal, and I’m not the only one.

    I’m happy for people where it works out but I feel immense pain knowing I’m back to square one for the 4th time. And let’s not kid ourselves, 10 years going by doesn’t exactly make me more attractive.