In the mid 10s, I worked as the engineering director for a consultancy. My boss would openly brag about being able to hire women for a fraction of the cost of a man. I was so offended by this that I created a partnership with a coding academy for at-risk and underrepresented individuals just a few blocks away from our office. I made it my mission to hire as many women junior engineers as I could, just so that I could train them up and find them better paying jobs elsewhere.
Women engineers are out there, and I hope I’ve made the dating pool just a little bigger for you.
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