• MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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    14 hours ago

    I’m just saying: as a guy, this is not the only double standard, and not the only thing that people see as “you did it once so you’re $thing forever” that guys go through.

    It’s probably one of the most notable though.

    As men, we deal with a lot of judgemental shit and we’re expected to deal with it “like a man”… Whatever the fuck that means.

    Another good example of this is crying. If you have a mental breakdown and fall into a crying fit, people will brand you as a cry baby or some shit, and that will stay with you for a long ass time.

    There’s so much more. I don’t have time to think of, nor detail any of it. Any fellas that have examples, I invite you too add them in reply. Ladies, you can too. And anyone else can, honestly; let’s not forget our non-binary family.

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      I’ve had two relationships with women immediately go downhill after I cried in front of them. It was like someone flipped a switch and turned off any physical attraction they had to me.

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        I’ve discovered that emotional availability means you’re available to mirror her emotions. If she’s mad, you better get mad. If she’s sad, you better get sad.

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        I’ve had two relationships with women immediately go downhill after I cried in front of them. It was like someone flipped a switch and turned off any physical attraction they had to me.

        Can absolutely confirm this, myself, on a personal level.

        Never let them see you genuinely vulnerable unless you want to drive them away, or want that to be weaponized against you at some point in the future. Sometimes even both, but never neither.

        Only ever provide curated vulnerabilities that offer of themselves no true vulnerability, but satisfies any desire they may have to see vulnerability in you. Like being distressed at the sight of an unknown dead dog on the side of the road, for example. Clean, simple, controllable, and superficial.

        Violate this tenet at your own psychological risk.

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              I’ll make sure that next time a loved one dies I’m not in public!! Just because some dude finds it uncomfortable to see other people be sad or upset. I’ll call my mom now, let her know she can only die when I’m at home in private.

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                I think my favourite part was “planning to have a mental breakdown” as if that’s something that people plan.

                Like, yeah, let me just check my calendar for the day. Yeah, I’ve got lunch with Josh at 12:30, sales meeting at 2:00, mental breakdown at 3:00, panic attack at 6:00. Man, my day is packed!

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            12 hours ago

            Who the fuck plans a mental breakdown? Take that shit off my schedule damn.

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        11 hours ago

        my nephew was murdered, I helped raise him as a teenager while my brother was in the military. I cried in front of my “friends” and they judged me. They are no longer my friends. Terrible people. just like you

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            “If any of my friends are stressed and pushed to the breaking point, they need to schedule their mental breakdown in advance for a place and time when I am not around so they don’t inconvenience me.”

            That’s more or less what you sound like