omg right? My partner and I probably wouldn’t have married either. At minimum not when we did, but we had a bit of a scare years ago with her late ex-spouse’s family possibly thinking about fighting me for custody of the oldest of anything happened to her during the initial health scare that put her on disability to begin with from the pseudotumor.

It’s a long story but the short version is that basically no court out here wanted to touch letting me adopt our oldest because they wouldn’t accept the proof that the other bio parent was deceased. So when she got put on disability and that overtook the survivor benefits we decided the best thing for us was to marry so we could guarantee a bit better that he stayed with me if anything happened to her.