I just don’t think I have the time or energy to learn an entirely new, even harder gender, at this stage. I’m on easy mode and getting my ass kicked already. My ex-wife WAS jealous of my calves in heels tho so…
But for real I run in circles with a lot of polyamory and have been open from the start of my relationship with my wife that I wasn’t interested in monogamy (she wasn’t either)
Okay, but none of you are addressing the HOW? question. Dating apps suck now, it’s so hard to meet people, where are poly people meeting!? It’s literally a purely logistical question, to me. How. Where.
Queer spaces/meetups mostly! Or meeting partners’ partners. Grindr gets a bad rap for not entirely undeserved reasons, but I did meet some wonderful people there too.
I find the ones that are super open to the point where it’s kind of their whole personality tend to be the drama-llamas. There are plenty of polyciles out there in plain sight quite happy because they don’t go around broadcasting it.
early on I mostly just got on with my partner’s partners, didn’t form relationships with all of them but if I like someone, chances are I’ll like their partners too!
OKAY BUT HOW. I can’t even find one damn person, now I’m supposed to find multiple WHO ARE COOL WITH EACH OTHER!?
What kind of lives do you people even lead?
My fiancé and I were splitting up. I met my now partner on Tinder. They were poly from the start so I had to get used to that.
Married 8 years now, they’ve added a boyfriend and I have two girlfriends.
Well, I’ll be damned. Maybe I’ll give it a whirl someday when I meet two gorgeous, desperate, open-minded women.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
You too could be a gorgeous, desperate, open minded woman
I just don’t think I have the time or energy to learn an entirely new, even harder gender, at this stage. I’m on easy mode and getting my ass kicked already. My ex-wife WAS jealous of my calves in heels tho so…
Skill issue.
But for real I run in circles with a lot of polyamory and have been open from the start of my relationship with my wife that I wasn’t interested in monogamy (she wasn’t either)
Have you tried being an attractive woman?
I forgot it was an option, honestly. Good call.
Magnificent gif! 😄
Have you ever talked to a polycule? Most drama on earth
I promise plenty avoid the drama. also my god, have you ever talked to a monogamous couple?
Maybe humans just need to be single for awhile. Seems no configuration ionic or covalent seems to work
I’ve been single for a while and I have to say, other than the lack of sex, it’s been pretty fantastic.
Okay, but none of you are addressing the HOW? question. Dating apps suck now, it’s so hard to meet people, where are poly people meeting!? It’s literally a purely logistical question, to me. How. Where.
Queer coffee shop that also does DND nights 🤣
Queer spaces/meetups mostly! Or meeting partners’ partners. Grindr gets a bad rap for not entirely undeserved reasons, but I did meet some wonderful people there too.
I find the ones that are super open to the point where it’s kind of their whole personality tend to be the drama-llamas. There are plenty of polyciles out there in plain sight quite happy because they don’t go around broadcasting it.
I was mostly kidding (mostly)
Oh but I actually agree with you!
Relevant YouTube video: https://youtu.be/FRIMb3PTrS0
Honestly it’s a lot of calendar management and Trello boards. But we get to share on the cost of subscriptions, which is nice.
I’d never survive then, particularly without ADHD meds, as is presently relevant.
The people you imagine in a polycule are not as pretty as you think they are.
What does relationship style have to do with appearance? And who cares about appearance over personality? Weird comment
early on I mostly just got on with my partner’s partners, didn’t form relationships with all of them but if I like someone, chances are I’ll like their partners too!
This. :(
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