Organize going out and invite them. If they all say no, go out anyway, spend a little time out, and don’t sweat it. Organize again. They will eventually both go with you and invite you to their stuff. That’s more or less how society works.
Yeah it sounds easy, but I don’t know how to do that. People always flake on me, even when I organized a birthday party a month in advance and picked a time/date that’s supposed to work for everyone and checked a week before to make sure everyone was still planning to come. I still ended up alone, until I told people on the day-of that everyone bailed, and I guess four people felt bad enough about it to come over. It felt like a literal pity party.
I’d say people are too flaky, but maybe they just don’t care about me enough. Which leads me to struggle between, “Fine, I don’t care about them either,” and “My god, I’m so lonely.”
There’s this app I found called Meetups which shows me events in my city where I can go to meet people with similar interests and goals and just be out of the house. It helps, the less coup’d up I am the less I’m on social media the better I feel. I thought maybe this could help.
Organize going out and invite them. If they all say no, go out anyway, spend a little time out, and don’t sweat it. Organize again. They will eventually both go with you and invite you to their stuff. That’s more or less how society works.
Yeah it sounds easy, but I don’t know how to do that. People always flake on me, even when I organized a birthday party a month in advance and picked a time/date that’s supposed to work for everyone and checked a week before to make sure everyone was still planning to come. I still ended up alone, until I told people on the day-of that everyone bailed, and I guess four people felt bad enough about it to come over. It felt like a literal pity party.
I’d say people are too flaky, but maybe they just don’t care about me enough. Which leads me to struggle between, “Fine, I don’t care about them either,” and “My god, I’m so lonely.”
There’s this app I found called Meetups which shows me events in my city where I can go to meet people with similar interests and goals and just be out of the house. It helps, the less coup’d up I am the less I’m on social media the better I feel. I thought maybe this could help.