• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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      14 hours ago

      At the start of a semester, turning to a person next to me (guy or girl) and saying “I’m looking to form a study group, would you be free this afternoon to go over the homework” is the most easy, basic-bitch, virtually-never-fails approach to making friends in college.

      Guy or girl, cool or geeky, my age or a year or two off - 50% of the time it worked every time.

      Women don’t like being hit on in public. The idea that people of opposite gender don’t ever interact with one another in public is incel-tier paranoia.

    • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
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      16 hours ago

      If public and private are both out, how does one meet a possible friend or dating partner who’s a girl?

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        15 hours ago

        Approach a woman who does want to be approached at the time she wants to be approached without communicating any of that information. Ez. /s

        In seriousness, consider class time as ‘work.’ Don’t bother women at work. Now if you’re in the back of the class and she’s browsing Amazon, maybe she’s not working as much but don’t be creepy and say “I see you’re shopping, talk to me instead,” because, ew, but at least you know next time you’re getting situated you can say “Hey, stupid question, blah blah blah” and test the waters.

        Or, just generally treat women like people. That one always works.

      • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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        11 hours ago

        I wish I had an immediate solution.

        Realistically, our dating sites should be publicly ran so people can meet the way they have shown they prefer, which is online.

        The dating site algos were actually pretty good at helping people find partners until too much money got involved.