• ruby@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    14 hours ago

    in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come.

    besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you’re not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone’s already highschool friends and you’re a stranger.

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      12 hours ago

      ya if you want to meet people, join a club.

      I only ever speak to people I don’t already know in the same class when there’s class assignments that requires us to.

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        i don’t think we had anything like clubs. there was no campus as they have in america, just a college and a student dorm that was shared with other faculties.

        there were some club-like activities like tabletop game evenings every now and then but i always had classes during those and couldn’t try them out.

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          In college, made my own clubs and flyered it around.

          One club was the cartoons and cereal club, where people brought cereal and we’d watch 90s cartoons for an hour. Another club was the Bob Ross appreciation club, which was just an excuse to drink wine and paint.

          Be weird. You’d be surprised by the people you attract. And it was kind of awesome to go around bragging to people that I got 30 college kids to watch classic Xmen and eat Applejack’s.

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        Yep. Dorm life you’re stuck meeting people whether you like it or not. I hated our dorms, but I had a lot of fun with the roomies and others I met in the dorms.

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        I didn’t live on campus but I was in a fraternity, was in the tennis club and I worked as a guide for exchange students. There were plenty of opportunities to meet new people and date.

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      and it was pretty easy to fish out people that arnt part of the class, and are just sitting in it to scope out the place, there were plently of “vagrant” that pretended to be students and were just some creeps like the “anon” and homeless people.(this was a public university), the cray cray people are in the libraries.