Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.
It doesn’t even have to be romantic.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them. Or just ask someone a direct question to their face, however innocuous…
Everyone is terminally online now. And asking them to give you their direct one on one attention is considered demanding and rude. Everything has to be a text or a chat. Half the time when you interact with people IRL, they are on their phones. I see so many couples at bars now who are just… sitting there together on their phones.
I have a dog. She loves people and likes asking strangers for pets. People over 40/50 are happy to chat me up about my dog, ask me what her name is, make a comment about how cute she is. People under that age look like I am attacking them if I try to socialize with them about me dog. They just want to pet her and run away asap. they don’t ask me what breed she is, what her name is, or anything. They avoid all eye contact or conversation with me. It’s insane. Male or female.
People generally only want to socialize with people they already know and they primary want to do it via group chat or discord. Everyone and everything else is ‘scary’ or gives them ‘anxiety’.
Hell I told a person in line at the book store a few months ago she and it was really good and I’d read it I hope she enjoys it. She looked at me with daggers in her eyes, didn’t smile, said nothing. She was clearly around 30 too. It’s insane. 5-10 years ago that person would have been like ‘oh cool thanks! yeah I’m excited’. I remember being able to talk to people in book stores… about books. Nowadays… nope you are assaulting/attacking someone if you talk to them about books in a bookstore. Unless it’s an employee.