• Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
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    Being told you’re a lucky guy to have the girl you’re with is pretty much the height of cishet male-to-male compliments. There’s literally no compliment I would rather receive, and it’s pretty deeply ingrained in our culture.

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      I very often tell people this i thought i was building the couple up its like a shes great therefore you must be great for being able to date her. Didnt think i was questioning thier masculino.

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        Absolutely, most men would interpret it positively if they’re not very insecure. There’s a level of humility implied, like it’s a common football inspired saying “i outkicked my coverage” referring to marrying a wonderful woman.

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      About 7 years ago, my now-wife and I had just moved to this city and she was struggling to find work. We attended a few networking events to try to figure out the job market for her field here.

      Now, I mean. I know my wife is hot. She was then, she is now. She can and has stopped traffic. People have fallen off bikes to gawp at her. Women have thrown themselves at her. Men act like boys around her.

      At this professional networking event, while my wife had stepped away, a man wearing a 3-piece suit and clearly well into his career turned to me and said “I don’t mean to sound disrespectful, but she’s … really … beautiful.” The overall affectation and delivery was fawning, cautious, even. He was kind of moon-eyed. The guys around him all nodded somberly, as if they’d been stricken.
      He had been talking with the men around him when we wandered over, and they all went a bit quiet when we came over.

      Clearly, I still remember the compliment. It was a great testament to how hot my wife is. She’s a babe. (And like, fun, funny, and sweet and all the other stuff that makes relationships work.)

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      Being told you’re a lucky guy to have the girl you’re with is pretty much the height of cishet male-to-male compliments

      I personally would be more likely to interpret that as being told I’m not good enough for her. But that’s just me.

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          Depends, same age guy yeah it can come across as a threat, but older guys have said it to me and I’ll say it to younger guys. Like im forty, you guys are 25, im not stealing your girl lol. Like my 70 year old boss can say it to me and i know he just isn’t a threat at all, he can say with experience that my gf is better looking than me lol

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            Eh I’d be careful, 40/2+7 = 27, so according to the ancient folklore 25 isn’t that far off the “acceptable range” and the younglings could definitely think you’re creeping.

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      But this guy read the game in an even more deluded way than the average reader and thought he could just say “I am the prize” and have it be true