You’re really trying to oversimplify it to make a point. Are we assuming they’re both working full time jobs and such? Then sure, yeah. Is it agreed she’s “stay at hom”? Then yeah, she needs to do the shit, the same as a man would if he was “stay at home”

Maybe it’s a culture thing, but myself and my friends/family don’t use the “it’s your problem” mentality. Then again we aren’t pieces of shit so who knows.