• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    It’s funny, because you can just go to the gym and meet people who are both old and in shape. In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because… older people who are in shape are the ones who go to the gym in the first place.

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      I’m not single

      or 55

      but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.

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        but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym.

        I mean, more power to you. I’m mostly just saying “Women over 55 who are fit exist, you can find them at gyms all over the country.” I’m not suggesting you need to hit on any of them.

        That said, I can say from personal experience that people flirting with each other at the gym is incredibly common. I’ve flirted. I’ve been flirted. I even dated a Pilates instructor that I met there.

        Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work.

        Lot of flirting happens in offices, too.

        “Captive audience” type shit

        You meet people where you both are. But there’s a tactful way to approach people and a crass way. Don’t go running up to grab someone by the pussy. But smiles and small talk don’t hold anyone hostage.

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        They’re not talking about approaching women at the gym.

        They’re talking about observing women that are over 55 and in shape. Because they exist. Despite popular belief.

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          In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because…

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            I mean, more power to you. I’m mostly just saying “Women over 55 who are fit exist, you can find them at gyms all over the country.” I’m not suggesting you need to hit on any of them.

            The other user said it to you, too.

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            Meeting people doesn’t mean you’re approaching them to flirt.

            The argument is whether fit women over 55+ exist. They do.

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              It’s not necessarily even about your intention, it’s about leaving people alone when they probably want to be left alone.

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                2 days ago

                You’re completely missing the point.

                No one is telling you to approach these women at the gym. Just notice that they exist.

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      Exactly.

      Literally one can go to the grocery store and find a woman who is over 50 and in shape. I would bet money.

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          Yeah, I have to wonder if people who assert that it’s shocking to find a woman over 50 who is in shape and attractive actually ever leave their houses.