• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    10 hours ago

    this is classic abuse victim rationalization.

    Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn’t mean she still isn’t treating you like shit.

    • rabber@lemmy.caOP
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      9 hours ago

      I’m mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I’m a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way

      I’m raised by narcissists and I’m slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it’s easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don’t really intend to manipulate people but it’s still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn’t. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually

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          9 hours ago

          So far it feels like a net win compared to the rest of my shit life and I was single for 1.5 years before this and I couldn’t really stand it anymore

          No normal girl is going to tolerate me in a long term relationship, they are completely out of my league