• Boozilla@sh.itjust.works
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    6 days ago

    Sex, relationships, and loneliness are all distinct domains. There’s important overlap to be sure. But they are not the same things. You can be a casanova and still be lonely. You can be stuck in a bad marriage and feel very lonely indeed.

    I think a lot of modern people (regardless of gender identity) have problems making and keeping friends, too. Long-term friendships take work, sacrifice, and compromise. It’s not just compatible interests and personalities.

    • WaxRhetorical@lemmy.world
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      6 days ago

      I agree entirely. Anecdotally, dating has always been easier for me than building platonic relationships.
      I think for dating the ‘rules’ are a lot more clear, so it’s easier to figure out what works and what does not. I can be fairly straightforward when dating, whereas budding friendships from my perspective and experience require a very different approach.

    • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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      5 days ago

      or people have expectations that are unrealistic and making them miserable by expecting shit that we dindt’ expect 10 or 20 years ago from every kind of relationship.