People are laughing but yeah, chasing what insta tells you is attractive is a fools errand. A flawed but still loveable person will do unspeakable things to you while being over the moon about how hot you are.
Beauty is massively over valued and is a poor investment.
In my long career I have dated on both ends of the very attractive and very intelligent spectrum, and I’ve learned that I simply cannot be in a relationship with an idiot for long, no matter how hot they are. At one point I thought hot and dumb and obsequious was the right combo, but it turns out I am not psychologically cut out to be worshipped. When you spit on me I need to carry some real disdain for my sophomoric understanding of Proust, and not just because I asked you to.
Beauty is massively over valued and is a poor investment.
especially so considering that the rules are written by the people who benefit the most from it while the rest of us – the remaining 95% – are making due w what we can get.
People are laughing but yeah, chasing what insta tells you is attractive is a fools errand. A flawed but still loveable person will do unspeakable things to you while being over the moon about how hot you are.
Beauty is massively over valued and is a poor investment.
Physical beauty*
What you described here, a flawed but still loveable person, is also beautiful - just not in an immediately visible way.
In my long career I have dated on both ends of the very attractive and very intelligent spectrum, and I’ve learned that I simply cannot be in a relationship with an idiot for long, no matter how hot they are. At one point I thought hot and dumb and obsequious was the right combo, but it turns out I am not psychologically cut out to be worshipped. When you spit on me I need to carry some real disdain for my sophomoric understanding of Proust, and not just because I asked you to.
Also everyone gets old. Beauty is fleeting
I’ll find my wife beautiful no matter how old we get.
The problem is conflating youth with beauty.
especially so considering that the rules are written by the people who benefit the most from it while the rest of us – the remaining 95% – are making due w what we can get.