unless I have a constant stream of information coming into my brain, I might go insane
I felt the same way. It’s an upbringing thing, and I’m not sure it was due to being raised poor by parents always jobbing – dad was employed for 5 different jobs at one point. I gotta be working.
My wife was raised by parents with job security and lived in one house her entire childhood. Parents were home at 4 and then 5, and knew (and taught) healthy disagreement over contentious issues. Her whole family is a breath of fresh air vs the raccoons my family must resemble.
She took me on a vacation, like the first one I ever had. It was to the Dominican, just some resort (occidental in punta cana). I asked what our plans were while we were there, because I gotta have that calendar full.
“Nothing,” she said.
“Nothing?”
“Nothing.”
And we did, largely, nothing. 10 days, beach chairs and impeccable waiters at beck and call. We saw the whales and did a snorkel, and we went to the Amelia supermarket for snacks…
But really we sat and watched the ocean. We talked like spouses should, holding hands and breathing easily. There was no work, no issues, no jobs; and, above all the cost of going and staying, the big thing a trip like that did was to get us away from the churn and swirl and rumbling gnawing stress of western life.
You may not realize it, but you need some downtime: real downtime.
Don’t go anywhere fancy, but turn the phone over and just be for a sec. Be you, be present, be interactive, be observant; and just breathe.
I found it life-changing. We don’t go to fancy places very often, but we do reserve some time to be ourselves like that, and it’s a very good thing.
Maybe it’ll help for you too? Either way, I hope you find that balance and sanctuary too, so you can exist for just a calming moment without the fear of missing out on the trivia-stream.
I felt the same way. It’s an upbringing thing, and I’m not sure it was due to being raised poor by parents always jobbing – dad was employed for 5 different jobs at one point. I gotta be working.
My wife was raised by parents with job security and lived in one house her entire childhood. Parents were home at 4 and then 5, and knew (and taught) healthy disagreement over contentious issues. Her whole family is a breath of fresh air vs the raccoons my family must resemble.
She took me on a vacation, like the first one I ever had. It was to the Dominican, just some resort (occidental in punta cana). I asked what our plans were while we were there, because I gotta have that calendar full.
“Nothing,” she said.
“Nothing?”
“Nothing.”
And we did, largely, nothing. 10 days, beach chairs and impeccable waiters at beck and call. We saw the whales and did a snorkel, and we went to the Amelia supermarket for snacks…
But really we sat and watched the ocean. We talked like spouses should, holding hands and breathing easily. There was no work, no issues, no jobs; and, above all the cost of going and staying, the big thing a trip like that did was to get us away from the churn and swirl and rumbling gnawing stress of western life.
You may not realize it, but you need some downtime: real downtime.
Don’t go anywhere fancy, but turn the phone over and just be for a sec. Be you, be present, be interactive, be observant; and just breathe.
I found it life-changing. We don’t go to fancy places very often, but we do reserve some time to be ourselves like that, and it’s a very good thing.
Maybe it’ll help for you too? Either way, I hope you find that balance and sanctuary too, so you can exist for just a calming moment without the fear of missing out on the trivia-stream.