Asi seeit yes? Is that an Indian dish? None of my local places seem to have it on their menu.

Yeah, what you’re saying makes sense. I like “bad personality indicator” as an alternative, since it conveys to me it’s one of many indicators you might process, maybe not even consciously. I’ve just had rather negative experiences being “tested” and hearing that world applied to any kind of casual social interaction gets my hackles all the way up.

You’d fail my test if I learn you have tests for people.

Maybe it’s just a matter of phrasing, but the idea that I could be kind to our server all night, tip well, generally hit it out of the park, but be disproportionately judged for failing to do this one small thing because it’s your personal test? Sets my social anxiety off enough that if I knew that were on your mind I’d probably just say we’re not compatible.

Obviously, keep an eye out for shitty people, and don’t put up with bad behaviour, but also judge people as people, wholistically.