• TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works
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    12 hours ago

    Does he usually walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations? 😬

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      12 hours ago

      Judging by replies to that thread… yes, quite a bit. One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

      Edit: my personal experience is I had 2 different guys tap on my shoulder and ask me to remove my earbuds by gesturing. Both times they were trying to pick me up. I was just on the way home from work, exhausted and also heavily married.

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        H…How can someone come even close to think it is a smart move to stand behind someone, invading personal space (at minimum with their arm), grabbing and taking away ones belongings aka the headphones and then expecting that person will be happy to have a nice chat with you which results in a date?

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          Because they think they’re hot shit and have an ego the size of Jupiter. In their mind, they’re the catch and someone would have to be a (insert slur) to turn down such a gracious offer from the world’s most attractive “alpha male”.

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        One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards.

        Sounds like she suffered consequences while the man who harmed her suffered no consequences.

        We should be able to easily call police and sue for damages in such situations.

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      11 hours ago

      walk up to random people on the street who aren’t wearing headphones to try start conversations?

      It’s strange to me that this would be considered out of bounds. “Pickup artists” aside, this really ought to be more normal.

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        Maybe a Generation and location thing, Gen Z here from Western Europe and i definitly would not dare/think about trying to pick up a person outside of a space thats specificly labled for dating.

        For me its kind of a consent thing, outside of specific dating spaces i cant be sure that the other person wants to be botherd with dating.

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          But I didn’t say anything about picking a person up except to explicitly exclude it from what I was talking about. The comment I responded to was specifically about starting a conversation.

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          Yeah 90s born here and the idea of just wandering up to someone while they’re out in the street, shopping or pretty much anywhere that isn’t like a bar (and even then unless they give some sort of indication) and running a line is wild.

          My mates older brother in high school would insist that sort of stuff is how you do it. Fuck that. I hate people, mostly sales people or weirdos, bothering me when I clearly have every indication about my demeanour not to talk to me, do it. So why would I? It’s weird.

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            You should just talk to people to be nice. If it turns into something else, then great! But I hate when somebody starts a conversation with me and they have an agenda: like, they want me to give them money or join their religion or something like that. Just talk to people because it’s a nice thing to do!

            And if somebody’s giving social cues that they want to be left alone, then…don’t do that. Because that wouldn’t be nice.

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      12 hours ago

      Of course not, just hot women who can’t wait to speak to him. Except, y’know, those bitches who blow him off immediately. But those bitches are just getting in the way, the really hot chicks are still waiting just for him.