When we met and first started dating, my wife and I bonded over our shared interests. And then shared some of our independent interests with each other. Not all of them were picked up by the other, but even for the interests we didn’t pick up, we became generally aware of them, which helped fill in the picture of what the other person was about. And we built some shared interests over topics neither of us were interested in before meeting each other (a shared experience that starts an interest in both of us in some new thing).
I wouldn’t always describe it as hot (my wife is into some stuff that I genuinely do not understand the appeal), and probably wouldn’t even always describe it as interesting. But we care about each other, even the things we make fun of each other about.
When we met and first started dating, my wife and I bonded over our shared interests. And then shared some of our independent interests with each other. Not all of them were picked up by the other, but even for the interests we didn’t pick up, we became generally aware of them, which helped fill in the picture of what the other person was about. And we built some shared interests over topics neither of us were interested in before meeting each other (a shared experience that starts an interest in both of us in some new thing).
I wouldn’t always describe it as hot (my wife is into some stuff that I genuinely do not understand the appeal), and probably wouldn’t even always describe it as interesting. But we care about each other, even the things we make fun of each other about.