The feminine urge to watch your boyfriend’s videos that you won’t find funny or entertaining
Wait, this part gets good in about 12 minutes. 😄
Yeah well I don’t particularly want to watch TikTok videos about cabinet refurbishment. I also dislike the suggestion that “we should do this”.
The number of cleaning, and celebrity snark videos I’ve been shown proves this is not a gendered issue…
Almost like most people are willing to watch things our partners want to show us because we care about them. Hm.
I don’t like all the videos of “red flag vs green flag” and “AITA” posts my wife shows me.
She doesn’t like the piano-comedy skits and blacksmithing videos I show her.
We both watch the videos, and discuss them after watching.
Crazy how couples work out like that!
And you can then have a conversation, with a person you like. I don’t know how to crochet but I know the difference between a single and a double and I can read the recipe.
Yeah! I love it when my partner shows me his interests. We once got sucked into watching an hour long video on different types of sourdough bread. It was fun!
Next thing you’re gonna try to tell me is they want to show us stuff because they care about us too???
I know it’s shocking to hear, but women have feelings and can love people, too!
I am pretty sure you’re making this up.
You’re right, women don’t exist lol
Like birds! Are women just featherless bipedal land birds?
Yup, for me it’s the crochet and flower arranging videos. Every once in a while I get a cat meme which is nice.
The number of women in my environment who do this to me is fucking ridiculous.
Maybe it’s because you’re in their environment!
I get the unhinged TikTok demographic.
It is actually quite funny that I show my partner YouTube videos and she shows me TikTok videos.
I think it’s hot when my wife is into something and is explaining it to me. Even if I don’t share an interest in xyz thing, I find her fascinating, and I like understanding what she likes about a given thing.
I think she feels the same so I don’t second guess showing her something.
Explaining something that you’re passionate about is much different than forcing someone to sit through a video.
When we met and first started dating, my wife and I bonded over our shared interests. And then shared some of our independent interests with each other. Not all of them were picked up by the other, but even for the interests we didn’t pick up, we became generally aware of them, which helped fill in the picture of what the other person was about. And we built some shared interests over topics neither of us were interested in before meeting each other (a shared experience that starts an interest in both of us in some new thing).
I wouldn’t always describe it as hot (my wife is into some stuff that I genuinely do not understand the appeal), and probably wouldn’t even always describe it as interesting. But we care about each other, even the things we make fun of each other about.
What’s the word the youth uses? oh yeah,
Based
Fuck yeah, infodump harder!
What you share your vague niche interests with the person you care about? Woah slow down there buddy you might need to hold your horses buddy! /s
I made my girlfriend watch an almost one hour long video about dishwashers (I think it was by the channel “Technological Connections”)
Anyway she was amazed and did not regret it!
I love trying to get my partner to watch technology connection videos. I don’t think she really believes me when I go, oh yes there is actually a video about traffic lights heating systems or tell her about the multi-year long Christmas decoration lights saga.
There is at least one follow up to that dishwasher one, or perhaps just a related one, about dishwasher detergent.
He got some pods chemically tested to vindicate his hatred of them. They scientifically do not work as well as the much cheaper loose powders. Specifically pods don’t utilize the prewash, which is an important part of the machines ability to clean what’s being run through.
I think he also created his own line of dishwasher detergent because of his lab results iirc
“Babe, a follow up on the dishwasher just dropped”
Well i know what we will watch this weekend.
Everyone loves Technology Connections. Also, watching Alec rant about Christmas lights every year is tradition now.
Yeah, and his love of heat pumps! :D
It’s a good video though.
A female friend of mine says Technology Connections is “boy coded”. Well, she is missing out
I’m a woman and I like his channel. The first of his vids I watched was the one about brown being weird* and I went on from there. He’s the only account I follow on mastodon on my main feed and not hidden in a list.
*the colour, not us brown people.
Missing out for sure!
But I wonder what boy coded means, i kinda agree and have an understanding to it but what is it actually and why?
I am female and disagree with your friends. I love Technology Connections and Alec.
It’s weird that people are trying to gender things like this
“boy coded”
Literally a video about dishwashers
What’s masculine about it? My wife does this to me all the time.
your gender doesnt bother me one bit.
we gonna watch that 3 hour youtube essay about every goomba glitch in SM64 no matter what.
That video was fire
You got my hopes up, but it’s only 2:24 =/
Pannenkoek has so many sm64 videos covering the most niche topics, you’ve got plenty of content there if you are hearing of him for the first time
Ah, no. I watched a bunch of his videos, including the whole invisible walls one =D
link?
Every Goomba Glitch in Super Mario 64 by pannenkoek2012 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcI1kUvVMYM
I cannot believe I watched another 2 hour video about mario 64 tricks. I think he spent more time making this video than they spent coding it.
It’s really impressive how he does those in-game graphics to illustrate radii and stuff, though.
If you want a quick 20 minute snack: Why Majora’s Mask’s Blue Dog Took 25 Years to Win the Race https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1l6Xj4PLEk
Fascinating.
Women: Men don’t know how to share their feelings.
Men: share feelings indirectly through content because it allows them to place some distance between themselves and their fear of criticism for having insecurities
Women: Gawd, I don’t care!
The woman in this scenario is still sitting and watching the video though?
Not sure if the makers of this meme considered this but the woman in there is an escort/partner robot, she is designed to please him (who is also a, more advance, android himself)
It makes the meme even more sad that the implication may be that women have to be paid and/or designed to be interested in their partners.
exactly!
That’s not true though.
And at the same time either aggressively or passive aggressively making it clear to him that she is disinterested in the video, which is reinforcing the man’s understanding that she is also disinterested in whatever it was that he found interest in. (That’s literally the whole subtext of the meme.)
Just saying that men share their concerns and feelings differently than women. Men very often share concerns and feelings indirectly. If a guy is repeatedly sharing YouTube videos with the woman that the woman doesn’t find funny or interesting, there is probably a reason the man is sharing them. An active listening woman might ask the man something like “How do you feel about this video?”
You’re reading a lot into a meme where the woman is clearly still leaning over his shoulder and watching the video he is showing her.
Why is the onus on the woman to be his therapist and drag answers out of him? If there’s trust built into a relationship, I expect my partner to be honest and forthright about his feelings and needs.
Women are not mind readers.
I’m just trying to explain the “urge” described in the meme. That’s all.
Almost like the “urge” isn’t exclusive to men and humans tend to enjoy sharing our interests with each other.
Disregarding the genders, in proper communication it’s the senders responsibility to encode their message in a way that can be decoded by the listener.
Sharing your emotions are not so different, it’s still the senders responsibility to share more directly if their partner is not picking up on it.
Just make sure they are really uncomfortable when they do it.
fear of criticism for having insecurities
Found your problem. If your boys won’t accept you when you’re having a hard time, you might just have shit friends. We all struggle with different things, there’s no shame in being honest about that. A good friend will get that and have your back anyway, even when you need to vent or whatever.
You might get teased a little or something, but you shouldn’t really be afraid of that either if you know your friend actually does give half a shit about you.
Funny how you went right past the woman in the scenario…
Because the meme was literally about the dude.
No point. We can control ourselves, but we cannot control other people. If a girl wants you to talk to her instead of show her videos, then whatever, she can want that. If you don’t want to change yourself for her, then just find a different girl.
You’re completely right.
I don’t deny that male friends can be toxic. What can be worse still is that the man does share these videos with his friends, and the videos themselves are toxic and reinforce toxic behaviors and thoughts, and the friends share affirmations with the man about the video. That happens a lot too.
That man is probably repeatedly sharing videos with the woman because he’s hoping that she returns the same affirmations that his friends do.
I think it’s a little more complicated. I can empathize with the reluctance to share, I was raised that way too. He’s right that we can sometimes share even innocuous things we like because that’s easier and feels safer than trying to compose our own thoughts into words. I’m guessing you’ve probably done it with music before, songs are really good at communicating things like that sometimes, it can even just be more efficient.
I grew out of it eventually though. I wanted the choice, the power to either share a piece of media to represent me or just open myself up and present my own case based in my own feelings and with my own logic. Since I can now comfortably do both, I recognize that my old reluctance to open up was an unnecessary burden I was putting on myself, rooted in fears that were ultimately unnecessary and unproductive, that I acquired in my childhood. Much like many other things I acquired in my childhood, it just wasn’t what I wanted anymore. That fear was a crutch, training wheels, and just a hindrance now. Ultimately it had become a weakness, as fear can sometimes be if you listen to it too much.
In the old days we did this with Monty Python movies.
Of all the women I dated, the only ones who actually liked Monty Python, I wasn’t really interested in them! Of the rest, the mostly like the scene with the killer rabbit.
Meanwhile, I pretty much don’t need the sound on Holy Grail anymore.
What does gender have to do with it?
Think they’re just observing thst men are more likely to show you some stuff thst isn’t at all interesting (fact check: true)
not true
Comment all your favorite 1h+ videos here. I’ll watch them eventually
Super Eyepatch Wolf - You Cannot Play These Games
There’s others, but that’s the only one my brain managed to remember enough of currently!
- HelloFutureMe’s rewrite of Legend of Korea that would make it a good show, rather than the most-retcon-filled bullshit I’ve ever seen.
- Mother’s Basement’s Happy Science Trilogy (look for “a cult made this anime”, and strap the fuck in, because the 8th-dimensional spirit of Isaac Newton is here to convince you to pay some Japanese guy all of your money)
a women
the masculine urge to bite myself as hard as i can while a woman watches
