People will get bullied over anything, it’s not just anime. It’s a clash of personalities or cultures. Sometimes, it’s about power dynamics, other times it’s just about tearing someone else down to feel better about themselves or for status in some group.
Very true. I recently found out that my mom is an extreme covert narcissist and it’s been kinda wild to have a lot of my suspicions confirmed, but yeah. According to my sibs and my boyfriend, I was always her main target and I think it just taught me to expect, accept and seek out abuse because I have been bullied for most of my life by people who have similar traits as my mother. I guess I just bring it out in people when they are around me.
It only started to change right before covid when I had had enough of those types of friendships and started putting more effort into people who were actually nice to me.
Would love to say that it has fixed everything, but nope. Now I just bully myself to feel normal.
My girlfriend has twins and one of them gets bullied for not wearing dresses. The other doesn’t. She is so young that the other girls who bully her just started to even understand the difference between a dress snd pants.
You can also bullied for not doing something, as much as you can for doing something, or not doing something in a sufficiently symbolically popular way.
Like the Ribbon episode in Seinfeld, where Kramer supports the AIDS walk, but he doesn’t want to wear the AIDS ribbon on his shirt, so he gets assaulted by a gang of ribbon wearers.
I had a similar incident where I didn’t want to wear trans pride flags for an event, but I supported the event, but still pro-trans bullies wanted to paint me as trans hating bigot for not wearing their flag. It was just power-tripping weirdos, for whom the irony of their insistence of social conformity of others appearances and behaviors was lost. Because hey, they bullying you doing it for a Good Cause, so it’s OK when they do it.
People will get bullied over anything, it’s not just anime. It’s a clash of personalities or cultures. Sometimes, it’s about power dynamics, other times it’s just about tearing someone else down to feel better about themselves or for status in some group.
Very true. I recently found out that my mom is an extreme covert narcissist and it’s been kinda wild to have a lot of my suspicions confirmed, but yeah. According to my sibs and my boyfriend, I was always her main target and I think it just taught me to expect, accept and seek out abuse because I have been bullied for most of my life by people who have similar traits as my mother. I guess I just bring it out in people when they are around me.
It only started to change right before covid when I had had enough of those types of friendships and started putting more effort into people who were actually nice to me.
Would love to say that it has fixed everything, but nope. Now I just bully myself to feel normal.
My girlfriend has twins and one of them gets bullied for not wearing dresses. The other doesn’t. She is so young that the other girls who bully her just started to even understand the difference between a dress snd pants.
You can also bullied for not doing something, as much as you can for doing something, or not doing something in a sufficiently symbolically popular way.
Like the Ribbon episode in Seinfeld, where Kramer supports the AIDS walk, but he doesn’t want to wear the AIDS ribbon on his shirt, so he gets assaulted by a gang of ribbon wearers.
I had a similar incident where I didn’t want to wear trans pride flags for an event, but I supported the event, but still pro-trans bullies wanted to paint me as trans hating bigot for not wearing their flag. It was just power-tripping weirdos, for whom the irony of their insistence of social conformity of others appearances and behaviors was lost. Because hey, they bullying you doing it for a Good Cause, so it’s OK when they do it.