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  • yeehawboy@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    I’m no life advice giver, but I’ll tell you what I tell my mom when she is stressed that her house is so dirty. I say to her, don’t think that the whole house needs to be cleaned. Just get the countertops clean. Once you do that maybe you’ll feel like cleaning the stove, and maybe the oven after that. Next thing you know you might have finished cleaning the kitchen. Now that’s one less room to think about cleaning (for now). Now maybe you’re into a routine of cleaning and want to keep going.

    This could be bad advice but maybe don’t think about it being 80 pounds you want to lose in a year. Just commit to losing 5 pounds these next few months. Who knows where you’ll be in a year!

    Good luck to you!

    • Lupus108@sh.itjust.works
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      Yeah I’ve done similar with sticking with training. If I plan to go for a jog I just put on my sport clothes after getting up, now that I wear my sport clothes I can go outside, now that I’m already outside in my sport clothes I can go for a little run. If at that moment I don’t feel like running I just take a little walk.

      Same with my workout, I usually do it at home, I just start small, do 10 push ups, see how it feels, if they feel good I can do another rep, if that felt good I can also do another exercise and before I really notice I’ve done my workout.

      And if I don’t feel like doing it I at least gave myself every opportunity to do it and I don’t beat myself up for not doing it.

      For eating healthier I figured out that for me it starts in the grocery store. For once I never go shopping hungry and if I just have healthy stuff in my fridge I am way more likely to eat better.

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      24 hours ago

      There’s a motivational app someone I know uses that has this very idea - I think it’s Finch (little Tamagotchi type deal, reels you in with cute interactions, and gives you little app-based rewards for achieving little goals). One day in a given week its like ‘Clean the bathroom sink day!’ or ‘Time to wipe down the skirting/baseboards!’