• JasonDJ@lemmy.zip
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    3 hours ago

    Men are dense and women are indirect.

    I know these are generalities, but it’s sooo freakin common that it’s a well-known trope.

    I’d actually go a step further and say that it’s not so much that men are “dense” as it is that they are full of self-doubt…I.e., seeing the advances, knowing they are there, but not believing that they are actually intended for them, or it’s a joke/prank, or for whatever other reason, they convince themselves that it’s not an advance and they are misinterpreting.

    IANAD, but I’d guess this has more to do with mens mental-health awareness than anything else.

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      2 hours ago

      It’s a trope, but it’s also supposedly “well known” that men are horny bastards who think with their dicks… yet somehow we have these the two very opposing scenarios.

      Personally, despite a rather distinct lack of interest from the “fairer sex” prior to college, I found that plenty of women were more interested in sex than me in later years and not particularly subtle about it, which was actually off-putting as I wanted a relationship with a bit more substances. A lot of guys I know were in the same boat. Sex was easy. Finding somebody who actually wanted to do activities together was quite hard.