When I was young, I was naive to the ways of romance, and especially romantic communication. I was often oblivious to advances made upon me, and awkward and unskilled at making any expression of interest without just looking a bit foolish. However, after a lot of experience and many ups and downs in the pursuit of love, I find that I am no longer young.
Men are dense and women are indirect.
I know these are generalities, but it’s sooo freakin common that it’s a well-known trope.
I’d actually go a step further and say that it’s not so much that men are “dense” as it is that they are full of self-doubt…I.e., seeing the advances, knowing they are there, but not believing that they are actually intended for them, or it’s a joke/prank, or for whatever other reason, they convince themselves that it’s not an advance and they are misinterpreting.
IANAD, but I’d guess this has more to do with mens mental-health awareness than anything else.
Improved your sword making skills along the way?
Amazing
Succinct, eloquent prose there. Well said
Well, if it was Reclaiming the Blade, I’m not surprised !
Tysm I’m going to watch this right fucking now
Time to don the sexy (steel plate, full covering) armor and invite him to join the Crusade.
Sabaton song for effect optional but recommended.
Time to lose the lingerie and put on a smiths apron
Aww dude.
You ever watch those archer twink videos?
smiles in Blumineck
Dude’s got a wife and kids.
No sure who said this… sounds like Bill Burr but … “No matter how beautiful she is, there’s some guy somewhere who’s tired of putting up with her shit”
Bill Burr performed in Saudi Arabia. He’s not kosher anymore.
Are you saying that’s a good thing or a bad thing?
Are you taking an anti-Arab or anti-Semitic position?
Have you tried laying next to your boyfriend while making a sword?
Not sure how laying next to him while he is making a sword is any different.
She could film him and make a documentary
It sounds like hes respecting consent, just being in your underwear doesn’t automatically mean you want him all over you and hes respecting that possibility.
If I was playing a video game that I was super sucked into and focused on, and then a girl I was with still in her underwear sat next to me, I wouldn’t assume it was an invitation to immediately begin sucking on her titties or something. I’d figure she just wanted to chill next to me in her undies.
If you want to have sex: communicate that. He probably would have been down.
This situation isn’t about consent; it’s about seduction and attraction. It’s not unrealistic that seeing your partner in their underwear might distract you from what you’re doing and elicit an amorous response, and that’s what she wants. There’s no suggestion that that response would be anything but respectful of consent.
what she wants is to be passive aggressive.
chances are if he does show interest, she’ll reject him. because that’s what passive-aggressive people do, because it’s all about power-games and manipulation.
if she genuinely wanted attention, she’d ask for it. with her words. which is precisely the thing passive-aggressive people never do, because they are seeking to be aggrieved and upset for their minds and whims not being magically known by their partners.
Wanting a partner that shows active interest in you isn’t passive agression it’s totally normal. They just sound young and stupid and need to work on their communication skills
sitting there and being butthurt that someone doesn’t notice you is passive aggressive.
‘being young and stupid’ means being immature and needing to grow up and express you desires like an adult.
Maybe she does. But it’s not actually uncommon for people to others to pick up on things without having to be explicitly told.
chances are if he does show interest, she’ll reject him. because that’s what passive-aggressive people do, because it’s all about power-games and manipulation.
This is incel-tier bullshit.
Oh, because consent is about mind-reading?
What she wears doesn’t imply consent, except for when she wants it to (without communicating that), and then it’s her boyfriend’s failure as a man for not magically picking up on that?
It never implies consent, and she hasn’t said it does, and hasn’t implied it does. Responding to an (apparent) attempt at seduction, which is what she actually wants, does not require one to do anything that requires consent. What do you think it involves? You think she wants him to climb aboard and start thrusting with no preamble? Can you imagine anything short of that that might make her happy?
Hmm. A “hey” with three Ys and a smirk… I don’t think Melissa’s bf is the problem.
be more interesting than medieval sword making.
no, sex isn’t the answer. probably reading a book on medieval history and telling him about it is.
it always baffles me how many women i have dated… have no interests or passions, and seem to look down on people who do.
and the women i have dated who did have passions and interests… were way way more attractive and more fun to spend time with, because they didn’t expect me to entertain them.
I married a guy who already shared my interests, which I feel is a pretty hard requirement for a working relationship.
One of those interests is history, so we will be needing that docu as well
be more interested in medieval sword making.
no, sex isn’t the answer. probably reading a book on medieval
historysword making and telling him about it is.it always baffles me how many women i have dated… have no interests or passions in medieval sword making, and seem to look down on people who do.
and the women i have dated who did have passions and interests in medieval sword making… were way way more attractive and more fun to spend time with, because they provided the sauce for the video on it.
…ftfy
I’m sure men pay attention to her. Just not the men she wants, how she wants.
For real tho, what is the name of that doc?
Also. Is Melissa single?
Greg is single but there’s a lot of competition
Finish watching the doc, then ask her.
Bit of a tangent and a big YES I am a giant fucking nerd - but I do text based roleplaying. People online don’t know my actual gender (chick) since I’ll play anything. One huge thing I noticed when playing a dude is a lot of the women would just kinda be there and try to be sexy hoping I would do something.
They didn’t all write like that, and I still had a few guys to starfished, so to speak, but goddamn YOU NEED TO ENGAGE ME. If I wanted something pretty, I would look at a painting. I need an activity.
Would also love to know the doc, lol.
See my comment above, could be Reclaiming the Blade: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0961079/
Sometimes a man is just tired, you know?
