• FishFace@piefed.social
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    12 hours ago

    This situation isn’t about consent; it’s about seduction and attraction. It’s not unrealistic that seeing your partner in their underwear might distract you from what you’re doing and elicit an amorous response, and that’s what she wants. There’s no suggestion that that response would be anything but respectful of consent.

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      12 hours ago

      what she wants is to be passive aggressive.

      chances are if he does show interest, she’ll reject him. because that’s what passive-aggressive people do, because it’s all about power-games and manipulation.

      if she genuinely wanted attention, she’d ask for it. with her words. which is precisely the thing passive-aggressive people never do, because they are seeking to be aggrieved and upset for their minds and whims not being magically known by their partners.

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        10 hours ago

        Wanting a partner that shows active interest in you isn’t passive agression it’s totally normal. They just sound young and stupid and need to work on their communication skills

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          9 hours ago

          sitting there and being butthurt that someone doesn’t notice you is passive aggressive.

          ‘being young and stupid’ means being immature and needing to grow up and express you desires like an adult.

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        10 hours ago

        Maybe she does. But it’s not actually uncommon for people to others to pick up on things without having to be explicitly told.

        chances are if he does show interest, she’ll reject him. because that’s what passive-aggressive people do, because it’s all about power-games and manipulation.

        This is incel-tier bullshit.

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      11 hours ago

      Oh, because consent is about mind-reading?

      What she wears doesn’t imply consent, except for when she wants it to (without communicating that), and then it’s her boyfriend’s failure as a man for not magically picking up on that?

      • FishFace@piefed.social
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        10 hours ago

        It never implies consent, and she hasn’t said it does, and hasn’t implied it does. Responding to an (apparent) attempt at seduction, which is what she actually wants, does not require one to do anything that requires consent. What do you think it involves? You think she wants him to climb aboard and start thrusting with no preamble? Can you imagine anything short of that that might make her happy?

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          Responding to an (apparent) attempt at seduction, which is what she actually wants, does not require one to do anything that requires consent.

          What exactly do you think seduction is?

          I was under the impression that consent is required for pretty much everything. So what exactly do you expect him to do?

          “Hey, I noticed you’re in your underwear. Does this mean you’re propositioning me?”

          You can obfuscate all you want by code switching whenever it’s convenient for you. “I’m horny, so nothing that I want right now requires consent” versus “I’m not in the mood right now, so if you even look at me without my consent I will hold a grudge against you for the rest of my life.”

          Just don’t be surprised when people stop putting up with your bullshit. The dude is probably focusing on his game because he doesn’t feel like being teased, toyed with, and accused of heinous shit.