Hell, how many would choose not to kill for their wife? Say someone sexually assaults her and she doesn’t want her husband to kill the perpetrator. Because, I’ve been in a similar position (no opportunity to actually enact the violence though) and I suspect a lot of these men wouldn’t. They aren’t wanting to kill for their wives, they’re wanting to kill to maintain their sense of safety and self image as a protector.
In such a scenario, the will of the victim is paramount. As much as my rage that my wife had been harmed would motivate me to go full Punisher, her desire to not lose my to a prison cell or the grave would make her tell me to allow the justice system to work. I would follow her wishes but anything I could do that wouldn’t taint the evidence needed to convict I would do.
For years my wife and I have talked about who would outlive the other and we both constantly say the other will (it’s pretty damn sad to think about going on without each other). Very recently I changed my thought process and would prefer to live longer, if only to spare her the pain of going through that feeling of loss.
To be fair, how often would you need to kill someone to defend your wife? Dishes and laundry on the other hand, you have to do on a daily basis. Do the math.
In fact I do most of the chores in my house because my wife’s hobby requires frequent absences.
In my opinion “I would cross border for better life for my children” is looked down because it lacks “patriotism” or whatever the call pointless nationalism nowadays. Personally if my country was in any danger of being invaded, you can find me and my family at the border faster than media can send their crew there to film it. And I say it while my country borders Russia.
In loving relationships it’s mutual. Wifes would probably also kill for their husbands. The division of labour would also be split somewhat equally.
When one would do labour or killing depends on context. I’m more likely to accept some labour on request from my spouse, than i am to accept an order to kill their enemies. But we are still honest when we say we would kill for eachother. When it would make sense, in some extraordinary situation, that is. I don’t expect that hypothetical situation to ever come up though.
men in particular say this all the time, too
“i would kill for my wife” would you do the dishes for your wife? the laundry?
it’s easy to talk about sacrifices you’re never going to have to do, especially when they make you sound so badass
but actually doing stuff to improve people’s lives around you is much harder than just talking
Hell, how many would choose not to kill for their wife? Say someone sexually assaults her and she doesn’t want her husband to kill the perpetrator. Because, I’ve been in a similar position (no opportunity to actually enact the violence though) and I suspect a lot of these men wouldn’t. They aren’t wanting to kill for their wives, they’re wanting to kill to maintain their sense of safety and self image as a protector.
In such a scenario, the will of the victim is paramount. As much as my rage that my wife had been harmed would motivate me to go full Punisher, her desire to not lose my to a prison cell or the grave would make her tell me to allow the justice system to work. I would follow her wishes but anything I could do that wouldn’t taint the evidence needed to convict I would do.
“I would die for my wife”
How about living for them instead? Dedicate your life to them while it’s still valuable.
For years my wife and I have talked about who would outlive the other and we both constantly say the other will (it’s pretty damn sad to think about going on without each other). Very recently I changed my thought process and would prefer to live longer, if only to spare her the pain of going through that feeling of loss.
To be fair, how often would you need to kill someone to defend your wife? Dishes and laundry on the other hand, you have to do on a daily basis. Do the math.
Absolutely, I think humans want the honor of spectacle and not the labor of the mundane
Especially in an age of spectacle and shallowness.
I do.
In fact I do most of the chores in my house because my wife’s hobby requires frequent absences.
In my opinion “I would cross border for better life for my children” is looked down because it lacks “patriotism” or whatever the call pointless nationalism nowadays. Personally if my country was in any danger of being invaded, you can find me and my family at the border faster than media can send their crew there to film it. And I say it while my country borders Russia.
In loving relationships it’s mutual. Wifes would probably also kill for their husbands. The division of labour would also be split somewhat equally.
When one would do labour or killing depends on context. I’m more likely to accept some labour on request from my spouse, than i am to accept an order to kill their enemies. But we are still honest when we say we would kill for eachother. When it would make sense, in some extraordinary situation, that is. I don’t expect that hypothetical situation to ever come up though.