My wife hates giving blowjobs, to the point where she doesn’t even want me to go down on her since she feels bad for not wanting to reciprocate. It’s like, I don’t do it because I want to get something in return, I just want to make you feel good, haha!
I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying ‘oh you don’t have to do all this’.
It’s odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.
I genuinely wonder what that’s about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.
From what I understand, her previous relationships had all been transactional, where the guy made her feel like she owed him for every nice thing he did. She’s still working on allowing herself to receive without feeling a sense of debt.
I’ve dated quite a few women and had a couple of long-term relationships. They all seem reluctant to give a blowjob - it happens but rarely. I’ve never pushed it, only shown in every way I can how much I enjoy it when it does happen. My current domestic partner does it, but I probably go down on her 10-20x more often than she does me.
But it’s also kind of a general pattern that they expect me to take the initiative in sex, and they are relatively passive. One hypothesis I have is that taking too much initiative makes them feel “slutty” or that their own desirability is not confirmed enough. Maybe this is just a part of that general pattern. But what do I know.
My wife hates giving blowjobs, to the point where she doesn’t even want me to go down on her since she feels bad for not wanting to reciprocate. It’s like, I don’t do it because I want to get something in return, I just want to make you feel good, haha!
I feel ya. Got a similar situation. She often does not want me to go down on her or similar bevause she does not have the energy to reciprocate. But she still says she wants it. The she keeps saying ‘oh you don’t have to do all this’.
It’s odd but sometimes we do stuff because it feels good to make our loved ones feel good.
Ma’am, I’m trying to pleasure a Lady down here, that’s hard work. Please stop worrying and enjoy the trip.
Besides that, I found blowjobs to be boring every time. It just doesn’t do that much for me.
Bro, talk to her about getting a Fleshlight. That way you both win. She won’t feel guilty and both of you pleasure each other.
If it even touches the bed, I’ll burn it with fire!
nsfw
Most cursed travel mug
It is like kissing your coffee!
I’m not sure if a straw would make it better. French kissing your coffee out of it would DEFINITELY make it worse.
Just pretend to be a bird!
Be sure to fill it with pea soup!
Sorry, I’m back. I was just vomiting real quick. Where have we been? Oh yeah, that comment here 🤢
I’m just going to lightly touch on this by saying my lips surely look better than those.
Sexy
it sounds like she wants to reciprocate giving pleasure in some way, just not that one. give her an idea.
the sexiest organ you can use during sex is your brain, then your voice. communication goes a long, long way.
I genuinely wonder what that’s about. Why is it so much of a sacrifice, why is it any different from giving a back rub (assuming you have good hygiene). I certainly am not bothered by going down on her - on the contrary.
From what I understand, her previous relationships had all been transactional, where the guy made her feel like she owed him for every nice thing he did. She’s still working on allowing herself to receive without feeling a sense of debt.
I’ve dated quite a few women and had a couple of long-term relationships. They all seem reluctant to give a blowjob - it happens but rarely. I’ve never pushed it, only shown in every way I can how much I enjoy it when it does happen. My current domestic partner does it, but I probably go down on her 10-20x more often than she does me.
But it’s also kind of a general pattern that they expect me to take the initiative in sex, and they are relatively passive. One hypothesis I have is that taking too much initiative makes them feel “slutty” or that their own desirability is not confirmed enough. Maybe this is just a part of that general pattern. But what do I know.
You are reading into it too much, you just have big dick problems.