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  • HeyJoe@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    I wish I could lose like 80… Ive been promising myself for like 30 years now that every year will be different. It never is.

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      also, try a synergistic form of exercise, like commuting by walking or learning to play the drums

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      I’ve lost 40 lbs so far this year. Every time I feel hungry, I drink a bunch of water and wait awhile to see if I’m still hungry. Almost always, the hunger and cravings disappear in ~15 minutes.

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      I’m no life advice giver, but I’ll tell you what I tell my mom when she is stressed that her house is so dirty. I say to her, don’t think that the whole house needs to be cleaned. Just get the countertops clean. Once you do that maybe you’ll feel like cleaning the stove, and maybe the oven after that. Next thing you know you might have finished cleaning the kitchen. Now that’s one less room to think about cleaning (for now). Now maybe you’re into a routine of cleaning and want to keep going.

      This could be bad advice but maybe don’t think about it being 80 pounds you want to lose in a year. Just commit to losing 5 pounds these next few months. Who knows where you’ll be in a year!

      Good luck to you!

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        Yeah I’ve done similar with sticking with training. If I plan to go for a jog I just put on my sport clothes after getting up, now that I wear my sport clothes I can go outside, now that I’m already outside in my sport clothes I can go for a little run. If at that moment I don’t feel like running I just take a little walk.

        Same with my workout, I usually do it at home, I just start small, do 10 push ups, see how it feels, if they feel good I can do another rep, if that felt good I can also do another exercise and before I really notice I’ve done my workout.

        And if I don’t feel like doing it I at least gave myself every opportunity to do it and I don’t beat myself up for not doing it.

        For eating healthier I figured out that for me it starts in the grocery store. For once I never go shopping hungry and if I just have healthy stuff in my fridge I am way more likely to eat better.

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        There’s a motivational app someone I know uses that has this very idea - I think it’s Finch (little Tamagotchi type deal, reels you in with cute interactions, and gives you little app-based rewards for achieving little goals). One day in a given week its like ‘Clean the bathroom sink day!’ or ‘Time to wipe down the skirting/baseboards!’

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      my steps :

      • count calories.
      • have a non-food reward system in place, use monthly, or increasing lengths of time for rewards. make the first one splashy.
      • keep data. if you ever doubt yourself, look at how the data is working out.

      I went from 125 to 78kg this way.

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      21 hours ago

      Hey if you haven’t looked into it… ozempic is a fucking miracle drug. I know there’s this negative stigma around getting help, but you only get one life man. It’s not cheating.

      Source: drugs saved my life

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        Yes, and if your insurance won’t cover it, ask you Dr. about compounded semiglutide or trizepitide. It may not be cheap, but it’s nearly half the cost it less.

        Mochi is pretty good at ~$199+membership cost

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        Hey if you haven’t looked into it… ozempic is a fucking miracle drug

        I looked at your profile because of your reply somewhere else, and got distracted by this dangerous medical disinformation, which is a much larger issue…

        People are getting paralyzed, going blind, having serious facial nerve damage…

        There’s like 3 billion dollars in pending lawsuits.

        Don’t go suggested unproven medication, just because it passed our joke of a medical system and gets prescribed like candy…

        Fucking everyone should be aware of this because the opioid crisis just got reigned in right before this new “miracle drug” conviently hit the market.

        And sorry if I seem shitty, but it’s fucking depressing that no one else is apparently capable of seeing these clear grifts, and the one you’re smiling for is actively destroying people’s lives.

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          21 hours ago

          The safety studies are out there for you to read if you choose. Tell me how do you feel about vaccines? Just testing a theory.

          Edit: GLP-1 drugs have been around since 2005, have very low rates of side effects and are incredibly safe pharmaceuticals. I personally went from throwing up every day on metformin to an A1C in the normal range with no side effects when I switched. Pending unproven lawsuits are not the smoking gun you seem to think they are.

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      One thing that works for me is to try to do something instead of trying to avoid doing things. So instead of saying I can’t have cake, I say I have to start the day with a healthy breakfast with protein and I have to eat 200 grams of veggies. In the end it leads to me eating less cake, but mentally it is easier. You only have to do the thing once (per day) but you have to avoid things every fucking minute.

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      start again. the worst thing that could happen is that you fail. try until you don’t fail anymore. and be more forgiving to yourself so it wont hurt so much to fail anymore. then you are able to fail until you succeed.

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      Next year you’ll wish you started today, so start today. Take it from a man who was on that path for years.