Alternatively they’re unable to accept the persecution of a highly prejudicial society. Everyone chooses what they’re willing to sacrifice to get by. It’s completely possible for something to very important and worth fighting for while also not being something you want to deal with right now with everything else that’s goimg on.
It can also be social conditioning. Being gay or trans is still usually portrayed socially and in media etc. as something that happens to “other people”, so even if you know about it, you don’t necessarily realize you can be one of those other people
There’s also the fact that a lot of media depicts Queer characters in very caricatured ways (especially in comedy, which is to be expected I suppose). Lesbians are a growing exception I think (I think of Anna Sawai’s character in Monarch: Legacy of Monsters in particular). But it feels like lots of Queer male-coded characters are ridiculously flamboyant and sex-obsessed. Mitch from Modern Family feels like a notable exception, but his “gayness” began to ramp up a lot more in later seasons of that show. Most gay men I know are actually pretty boring most of the time, not solely wearing bright colors, going to brunch, and constantly making innuendos.
So what happens is that young Queer people don’t recognize their Queer-ness because they don’t see themselves in those caricatures, yeah? And they never really investigate those aspects of themselves because they might not want to be one of those caricatures. They just want to be “Sam, who also happens to be into [preferred consenting human type here].”
Also from my own experience, public visibility and education matters so much. Growing up in Hungary, I only knew that trans people “lived as the other gender”, but I never heard about HRT or even surgeries (aside from tabloid coverage of MtF bottom surgery 🙄). I knew that the way my body looked, I would never be seen as anything else than female, so I didn’t even acknowledge to myself that I would be much happier as a guy. It just wasn’t a possibility, so being a practical person, I never really considered the idea.
I was in my early twenties by the time I randomly heard of the existence FtM top surgery and HRT, and in a moment my world turned upside down. I still spent like a month with tons of introspection and educating myself, but when I was sure of myself, I started my my transition and never regretted it.
That’s totally fair. It was not my intent to conflate people who aren’t willing/able to take on the burden of living their truth in a hostile society with people who just lack the ability to reflect on their situation, but I can see how you arrived there from my comment and I’m sorry to have put you in that position.
I realize this maybe reads like some slop-generated apology but I swear that isn’t the case, it’s just my formal writing tone!
There’s an unfortunately large amount of people who completely lack any ability to introspect or think critically
Alternatively they’re unable to accept the persecution of a highly prejudicial society. Everyone chooses what they’re willing to sacrifice to get by. It’s completely possible for something to very important and worth fighting for while also not being something you want to deal with right now with everything else that’s goimg on.
It can also be social conditioning. Being gay or trans is still usually portrayed socially and in media etc. as something that happens to “other people”, so even if you know about it, you don’t necessarily realize you can be one of those other people
There’s also the fact that a lot of media depicts Queer characters in very caricatured ways (especially in comedy, which is to be expected I suppose). Lesbians are a growing exception I think (I think of Anna Sawai’s character in Monarch: Legacy of Monsters in particular). But it feels like lots of Queer male-coded characters are ridiculously flamboyant and sex-obsessed. Mitch from Modern Family feels like a notable exception, but his “gayness” began to ramp up a lot more in later seasons of that show. Most gay men I know are actually pretty boring most of the time, not solely wearing bright colors, going to brunch, and constantly making innuendos.
So what happens is that young Queer people don’t recognize their Queer-ness because they don’t see themselves in those caricatures, yeah? And they never really investigate those aspects of themselves because they might not want to be one of those caricatures. They just want to be “Sam, who also happens to be into [preferred consenting human type here].”
Also from my own experience, public visibility and education matters so much. Growing up in Hungary, I only knew that trans people “lived as the other gender”, but I never heard about HRT or even surgeries (aside from tabloid coverage of MtF bottom surgery 🙄). I knew that the way my body looked, I would never be seen as anything else than female, so I didn’t even acknowledge to myself that I would be much happier as a guy. It just wasn’t a possibility, so being a practical person, I never really considered the idea.
I was in my early twenties by the time I randomly heard of the existence FtM top surgery and HRT, and in a moment my world turned upside down. I still spent like a month with tons of introspection and educating myself, but when I was sure of myself, I started my my transition and never regretted it.
That’s totally fair. It was not my intent to conflate people who aren’t willing/able to take on the burden of living their truth in a hostile society with people who just lack the ability to reflect on their situation, but I can see how you arrived there from my comment and I’m sorry to have put you in that position.
I realize this maybe reads like some slop-generated apology but I swear that isn’t the case, it’s just my formal writing tone!