• TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today
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    21 days ago

    I don’t even know what you are trying to claim? You keep linking to a wiki article that just lists the status of legal polygamy in different countries and hoping people draw the same conclusions you have.

    You also keep claiming that the man being accused of cheating is sexually liberal just because he has chosen to cheat, but I think that you would have to assume that he didn’t expect his partner to be A monogamist for him to be actually liberal about sex and not just an asshole.

    Countries with legal Polygamy can still utilize social shaming and the law to sexually oppress their partners. In fact some of those states have some of the most severe punishments for infidelity on the planet, and they are typically hyper patriarchal and have laws only utilized against women.

    You can’t be sexually liberal while still expecting your partner to practice monogamy.

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        21 days ago

        Notice the sign says “I love McCheating on my wife”. Not “I love McLying to my partners.” My issue is with monogamous domineers

        I guess what I am trying to understand is what part you are being critical of? That the wife would choose to divorce their husband because of his infidelity? Or the concept of marriage being a legal concept?

        Something I hope we disavow.

        Obviously, but I fail to see why you chose to specify western/American law/culture when we see similar social/legal constructs all over the globe regardless of their attitude towards polygamy.

        But the opposite situation is what transpired here:
        monogamous domineers expected honesty in a sexually liberal society.

        What is your definition of a sexually liberal society? Regardless, the socially acceptable mores do not inherently apply to the dealings between two consenting adults who have defined the bounds of their own relationship.

        Otherwise this wouldn’t be public shaming McChat event

        I don’t really understand what you’re implying here. Imo she felt hurt and shame about her husband breaching the terms of their relationship and felt the urge to lash out at her husband. Now I don’t really condone that behavior, but I can understand why someone would feel that way if I shared the same belief system.

        “the divorce papers are finalized! 😁✌️×4 😭” “omg bae, when my cray fae in crime tells me ‘not to worry about it kitten’”

        Also didn’t understand what you’re going for here, but I suspect that is mainly due to me being middle-aged.

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            21 days ago

            That the relationships were as fickle as a McChat. I am unsure why you keep being confused these are USian mongamists. They expect an honest exclusive partner, and found out he was dishonest inclusive partner.

            Okay, so the overall criticism is about sexual exclusively in general, but specifically when tied to legal ramifications. I guess I can understand that, but to be honest, I don’t really know if I agree that sexually inclusive relationships are any less fickle. I also don’t think the fact that they are western/American really is relevant considering sexual exclusivity isn’t really unique across different cultures.

            That partners are liberally free to have sex with whatever they want?

            I think the confusion I had was because in different post it wasn’t exactly clear if you were assigning criticism towards both partners, a single partner, or the concept of monogamy.

            is morally irreprehensible in a liberal society.

            This is something I still don’t think I would fully agree with, but I can see your point of view. I personally think it’s perfectly fine if two consenting adults want to agree to enter a monogamist relationship.

            Yet they still chose to downrank my comprehension of the mcnogamist domineers spectacularizing a relationship situation. It didn’t have to be a public event at all. But they liberally choose to.

            Like I said, I personally don’t think it’s very tasteful, but I wouldn’t read too much into it as a comment about monogamist domineering. To me I would more attribute it to people being messy bitches about their personal business.

            I can boomer-translate it for you:

            Lol, yeah… Would not have guessed there was that much information conveyed in a couple sentences. You are really making me feel my age.