• lastweakness@lemmy.world
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    15 hours ago

    The wrong place to try to prevent abusers, but the perfect place to advise potential victims to change their behavior lest an abuser take advantage? Double standards.

    I mean, we could discuss the actual facts around what I’ve already described but I now see you aren’t here for that, my bad.

    in debates like this

    Never was a debate for me, but sure. I’m starting to see a pattern here. It’s fine, we expected different things from this conversation. You’re trying to “prove” something, and I’m trying to understand something. Anyway, take care

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        15 hours ago

        Don’t worry, I was the only victim in this conversation but I guess I do blame myself for trying to talk like a normal human being with you. Damn, look at me, victim blaming already. Btw, maybe consider not assuming malice in every conversation? But hey, I don’t expect that from you at this point. You’re probably going to label me a mysogynist instead lol.

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          15 hours ago

          Victimizing yourself in a conversation about a woman who was stalked, raped, and abused for years by her ex-boyfriend sure is something you can do.

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              15 hours ago

              Make sure to tell some little girls out there to not dress so provocatively lest they tempt someone into raping them.

              Same thing as telling someone that it’s their fault for being abused because they allowed their boyfriend to help set up their EV.

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                15 hours ago

                Anything but 5 seconds of introspection or thought, I see. But yes, keep going, keep twisting the narrative. Misandry at its finest. Did your ex-husband cheat on you or something? Was that a tipping point that made you hate all men? I have to ask because clearly, you’re willing to abandon all reason to hate. To me, it sounds like you need therapy pretty badly. But again, you would need to introspect for that, which is not really your strong suite.

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                  15 hours ago

                  It’s your insistence that telling victims how to change their behavior to avoid being abused is more important than placing blame for the abuse on the abuser that I am criticizing.

                  You do not represent all men. It’s pretty presumptuous to push that I hate all men because I take issue with your argument that we should place the onus on victims for their abuse instead of their abusers.

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                    14 hours ago

                    Yep, you still keep claiming that I said things I never actually did. Like I also already said, calm down and read what I actually said. About misandry, your comment/post history and modlog say enough. This conversation just solidified that impression is all. Tends to happen when you straight up lie about what is going on in a conversation. Oh, wait, it was a “debate” for you, right? Well, good luck, your insane accusations are not worth anyone’s time.