transcription: just saw a straight woman CONFIDENTLY say lesbian marriage isnt a real marriage its just “two best friends who get each other off” and like bestie, idk what has gone wrong in your life but thats exactly what marriage is supposed to be, regardless of the genders involved. as opposed to real marriage, where you have two people who dislike each other and dont get each other off.
Marriage isn’t committing to have sex with the other. Rape in marriage has been illegal for around 30 years. To me a marriage means committing to a partnership. This reductionist view feels harmful.
Committing doesn’t overrule consent, nor does it inhibit your choice to change your mind. I agree marriage doesn’t give either partner a “right” to sex but neither does it give a “right” to a partnership.
I’m being a pedant, i assume you meant to use “committing” in two different senses there: agreeing while maintaining agency vs. agreeing and foregoing agency. The earlier comments could be interpreted using either sense to get a different meaning, and i think the former was intended.
You are right. The former was intended.
For me marriage is just the formalisation of a relationship.
Same with a civil union.