You’re talking about a “female looking character” who is seemingly “presenting as their AGAB” as being nonbinary erasure. I am a real live AMAB person who is presenting as my AGAB, how does what you are saying not apply to me? Or any other nonbinary person who presents close to their AGAB?
By calling it “enby erasure” to have a feminine looking character being implied to be nonbinary you are directly implying that anyone that presents “too far” to one side or the other is not “enby enough” or in other words, invalid. How is that different from saying that we “Owe you androgyny?” Oh we don’t owe you androgyny, but if we present too far to one side or the other we get told we’re not actually nonbinary. How is that different? If you’re going to say that someone presenting too feminine is “enby erasure” how does that not equate to trying to enforce androgyny for enbies to be valid?
I’m betting that wasn’t your intent but I’m trying to get your to see the reality that you constantly doubling down on this is insane. There’s no “right way” to be nonbinary and you can look like literally anyone. Your insistence that just because this person looks very feminine or masculine that they can’t possibly be nonbinary is just plain wrong.
Because I was talking about 2 dimensional characters in a cartoon (which I now understand was not originally drawn to be about enbies, but didn’t realise at the time) … you are a 3 dimensional person with your own thoughts and feelings.
You took my comment regarding erasure, which came from my feelings, and wanted to shame me into silence. So of course I lashed out, because I’m not always emotionally mature.
I feel crushed under the weight of everything in mainstream media being hyper binary, so when I see a meme about enbies that presents people as being androgynous it’s like rain to a desert flower. Seeing a meme talking about gender diversity with two images of idealised hyper binary characters has the opposite effect.
Lesson learned. Next time I see something that upsets me, I’ll be good and not say anything.
What are you even talking about? Nonbinary people are starved for representation in general but most of what we do get is almost exclusively androgynous, almost always implied to be AFAB and often nonhuman. If any enbies are being erased it is the ones that don’t give femme-leaning androgyny, that “woman lite” that’s the only palatable way for media to represent us.
Lesson learned. Next time I see something that upsets me, I’ll be good and not say anything.
Get out of here with this “poor me” BS. You came in here spouting off implying how someone looking “too feminine” was “erasing enbies” as if it was impossible for someone to look like that and be nonbinary and when told that you were wrong by a nonbinary person you continually doubled down on it.
You literally tried asking me like if someone whose presentation aligns with their AGAB can be nonbinary like it was some kind of gotcha! What are we even doing here!?
So, to be clear, you’re saying that someone who is happy to present as their gender assigned at birth, behave like their gender assigned at birth, who doesn’t feel dysphoria, and is socialised as their gender assigned at birth can be non-binary?
And now you’re going to try to play the victim? Yeah okay buddy, you have fun with that.
YES YOU COLOSSAL FUCKING CLOWN! I’m defending the right of enbies to present how they want to fucking present! I don’t care if they look like a damn power lifter, a genderless Fae being, or a goddamned Victoria’s Secret model, the only “requirement” to be nonbinary is to IDENTIFY AS NONBINARY!!
Edit: To elaborate for others who might come later “Female-lite” is a reductive term that means that nonbinary is essentially just “person that I can perceive as woman, but is trying to distance from the baggage of misogyny” while “female heavy” refers to just “presenting too much like a woman” in this case. One is an actual erasure of identity by way of saying oh you’re basically women in all but name, the other is trying to police someone’s gender presentation because it’s not androgynous enough for you.
Ah yes, because that is the takeaway from “defending the right of enbies to present how they want to present,” and “female/woman lite” has totally never been used to erase and other any nonbinary person who isn’t a thin white androgynous AFAB person. Oh that’s not nonbinary, they’re too masculine/feminine. That’s a gay man, that’s a trans woman in denial, that’s <insert anything but nonbinary here>.
So you admit you’ve been twisting words this entire time in a desperate attempt to be right? Fuck all the way off you miserable little gremlin. Fuck out of here trying to say oh now I’m arguing your side you fucking clown.
You’re talking about a “female looking character” who is seemingly “presenting as their AGAB” as being nonbinary erasure. I am a real live AMAB person who is presenting as my AGAB, how does what you are saying not apply to me? Or any other nonbinary person who presents close to their AGAB?
By calling it “enby erasure” to have a feminine looking character being implied to be nonbinary you are directly implying that anyone that presents “too far” to one side or the other is not “enby enough” or in other words, invalid. How is that different from saying that we “Owe you androgyny?” Oh we don’t owe you androgyny, but if we present too far to one side or the other we get told we’re not actually nonbinary. How is that different? If you’re going to say that someone presenting too feminine is “enby erasure” how does that not equate to trying to enforce androgyny for enbies to be valid?
I’m betting that wasn’t your intent but I’m trying to get your to see the reality that you constantly doubling down on this is insane. There’s no “right way” to be nonbinary and you can look like literally anyone. Your insistence that just because this person looks very feminine or masculine that they can’t possibly be nonbinary is just plain wrong.
Because I was talking about 2 dimensional characters in a cartoon (which I now understand was not originally drawn to be about enbies, but didn’t realise at the time) … you are a 3 dimensional person with your own thoughts and feelings.
You took my comment regarding erasure, which came from my feelings, and wanted to shame me into silence. So of course I lashed out, because I’m not always emotionally mature.
I feel crushed under the weight of everything in mainstream media being hyper binary, so when I see a meme about enbies that presents people as being androgynous it’s like rain to a desert flower. Seeing a meme talking about gender diversity with two images of idealised hyper binary characters has the opposite effect.
Lesson learned. Next time I see something that upsets me, I’ll be good and not say anything.
What are you even talking about? Nonbinary people are starved for representation in general but most of what we do get is almost exclusively androgynous, almost always implied to be AFAB and often nonhuman. If any enbies are being erased it is the ones that don’t give femme-leaning androgyny, that “woman lite” that’s the only palatable way for media to represent us.
Get out of here with this “poor me” BS. You came in here spouting off implying how someone looking “too feminine” was “erasing enbies” as if it was impossible for someone to look like that and be nonbinary and when told that you were wrong by a nonbinary person you continually doubled down on it.
You literally tried asking me like if someone whose presentation aligns with their AGAB can be nonbinary like it was some kind of gotcha! What are we even doing here!?
And now you’re going to try to play the victim? Yeah okay buddy, you have fun with that.
So, you’re frustrated with “female-light” but fiercely defend “female-heavy”?
YES YOU COLOSSAL FUCKING CLOWN! I’m defending the right of enbies to present how they want to fucking present! I don’t care if they look like a damn power lifter, a genderless Fae being, or a goddamned Victoria’s Secret model, the only “requirement” to be nonbinary is to IDENTIFY AS NONBINARY!!
Edit: To elaborate for others who might come later “Female-lite” is a reductive term that means that nonbinary is essentially just “person that I can perceive as woman, but is trying to distance from the baggage of misogyny” while “female heavy” refers to just “presenting too much like a woman” in this case. One is an actual erasure of identity by way of saying oh you’re basically women in all but name, the other is trying to police someone’s gender presentation because it’s not androgynous enough for you.
So you’re not defending the rights of “female-light” enbies, just everyone else.
Ah yes, because that is the takeaway from “defending the right of enbies to present how they want to present,” and “female/woman lite” has totally never been used to erase and other any nonbinary person who isn’t a thin white androgynous AFAB person. Oh that’s not nonbinary, they’re too masculine/feminine. That’s a gay man, that’s a trans woman in denial, that’s <insert anything but nonbinary here>.
So now you’re arguing on my side. Thank you, I was beginning to think you’d never understand where I was coming from
So you admit you’ve been twisting words this entire time in a desperate attempt to be right? Fuck all the way off you miserable little gremlin. Fuck out of here trying to say oh now I’m arguing your side you fucking clown.