• baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
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    13 hours ago

    I could never have the opposite politics of my spouse. Sure, we may disagree slightly on some matters an nuance, but a world view in direct conflict with mine would be irreconcilable.

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      When politics felt like shades of policy disagreements I could see it. Now it is either you support democracy and human rights or you’re supporting pedophiles and genocide. Not much common ground anymore.

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      My partner is just slightly less left than me and I struggle with it some days. I can’t even imagine trying to date someone on the other side.

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        Sometimes I think about dating again after so long, and I imagine my girlfriend wanting to wiretap our place with an Alexa in the kitchen.

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      Seriously I don’t understand how some people can handle their best friend and roommate being a POS

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        1. Fear of making near friends / difficulty making the new friends
        2. Actual naivety of thinking the POS behaviour doesn’t matter
        3. Weirdly, peer pressure from other people? For instance you might want to distance yourself from one friend and you are then peer pressured to be in situations with them more often by the other friends, told to build your tolerance of them

        … 1 + 2 also applies to romantic relationships!

        Edit: just realised ‘best friend AND roomate’ is just a way of referring to a spouse. But there it is, there’s the low-down in my opinion.

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          As silly as bonding over race, especially when we disagree on basic morality, but that’s sadly what happens. 😔

    • ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world
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      12 hours ago

      I’m so glad my parents and brother have (nearly) the same politics as me. Having to regularly deal with trumpers (without being able to laugh in their faces as with my co-workers) would be a perpetual torment. My brother did have an inexplicable phase of loving Putin, but that passed quickly.

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      Same. I couldn’t respect someone with hardened, opposite politics to me. Sex would be satisfying though.

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      13 hours ago

      Almost, but sometimes also they are just in an abusive relationship and haven’t figured it out yet.

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        13 hours ago

        A lot of religious folks “don’t believe in divorce.” So even if the relationship isn’t abusive, they may be incompatible as a couple but just stick with it.

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          Yeah, I once talked with a woman who spent several decades being married to a guy who was physically and emotionally abusive to her, but made it clear that she would never leave him because she had promised to stay with him for live at her wedding, but it was okay because things would be better in heaven for her anyway, but not so good for him.

          It made me really sad…

  • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
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    The lady probably feels the same way, she just knows better than to be honest about it because she’s better socialised.