• Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net
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    1 day ago

    Toxic as fuck mentality.

    No one is entitled to the body of another just because they desire it. People have the responsibility to cope with their own emotions and impulses.

    If anyone tells you that you have to sacrifice your boundaries, they are being abusive and manipulative. Fuck that shit.

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      Bruh. Read what you wrote and take a look in the mirror. You are destined for failure after failure in relationships if you can’t escape from your own ego.

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        No need for a relationship if there isn’t mutual consent and healthy boundaries. Without those, the relationship was a failure to begin with.

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      You are talking about marriage, though. If both didn’t agree to it (eg, arranged marriage, or coerced) they should split. If they agreed to it but under different expectations of sex, they should talk it over, and in all likelihood they should split.

      He’s not saying sex should be guaranteed, but if people have already taken an agreement the agreement should either mean something, or be anulled, with no specific preference to either.

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        Marriage doesn’t entitle one to the body of another. It is toxic and manipulative to coerce a partner into giving up access to their body out of some arbitrary social obligation. No one should ever feel obligated to give up their bodily autonomy for another against their will.

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          19 hours ago

          He still has his bodily autonomy and is doing things fully consenting. It’s just a small sacrifice, doesn’t mean it isn’t consenting. Besides sex, you should make sacrifices in a relationship, within certain boundaries of course.

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            19 hours ago

            Being coerced into capitulating to the demands of another out of a manipulative and abusive social obligation is not the same as consent. Fuck that unhealthy, toxic nonsense.

            Respect the boundaries of others. Period.

            No, if your relationship demands you sacrifice your boundaries, that is an unhealthy relationship. Partners should respect your boundaries, not ask you to sacrifice them for their comfort. Fuck that.

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              14 hours ago

              I never said you should breach your boundaries. But, if your partner wants chocolate cake and you don’t, but it isn’t much of a hassle then you can make your partner some chocolate cake. It’s just going out of your way to do something for someone else.

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                12 hours ago

                Grabbing someone a chocolate cake is not the same as sacrificing your bodily autonomy to let them fuck you when you are not in the mood for sex. How fucking disingenuous