Sounds like a man who knows what he likes and doesn’t want social involvement with people he doesn’t like. Why does that behavior have to have a name?
Autism/Chad horseshoe theory
Is this situation plausible?
Yes. I’m tall and conventionally good looking. Had almost the same situation happen to me, except for the shouting “yes” part.
I am also above average in heights and looks. A girl would follow me around in high school and harass and make fun of me all the time while still trying to be my friend. I couldn’t stand her at the time but in retrospect she was definitely crushing on me.
I don’t tknow the coworker, but OP is obviously GAY.
OP is the coworker following the guy around. And they thought we wouldn’t notice smh my head
Totally in love and heartbroken. Bmh my heart too.
I work with a guy like this. Lead his icebreaker with “I don’t understand people so don’t expect me to interact with you.”
He’s the most brilliant person I’ve ever worked with. His knowledge is encyclopedic. He will show you how what you’re asking is idiotic in as few words as is necessary. He has no fear of manager or customer.
He has my eternal allegiance.
He has no fear of manager or customer.
Oh to be such a brave man
It helps if your field of fucks is barren and you’ve none left to give. I really love it. My boss told me if I wanna go up in the hierarchy I’ll need some diplomacy training to speak to higher ups and I’m like “do you really think I say those things by accident?!” :,D
We stan
looking at the lyrics of that song, i would not exactly stan
There’s a song about the word stan?
Yes, there is, it’s actually the trope namer!
I would follow that man into hell.
he’s GAY.
HE’S LITERALLY GAY
Or just not into that particular girl
They are both autistic.
I love how autism has become this fetishized thing that you slap onto all people operating outside of expected parameters.
Everything is an autistic trait when you go looking for autistic traits.
That’s exactly what I’d expect an autistic person to say.
I don’t think that’s what fetishized means.
It is. It refers to things being held in special regard in social arrangements, to an religious extent. The autism discourse, with all the memes and such, does more often than not include a cult-like adherence to beliefs around certain behaviours that anyone could display, shifting focus away from the developmental aspects of autism which are very much real and to diagnostic markers that are less than well defined but are used in clinical settings like: trouble at work/school/kindergarten [Y/N], and certain things the hiveminds of the world latch onto. There I think of people regarding dislike of the “big” light as being an indicator for autism(???).
to an religious extent
yeah, I don’t think that applies here
There are also civil and secular religions, so it still applies. Think about the way we fetishize democracy, long covid or mold exposure. Really interesting topic.
There I think of people regarding dislike of the “big” light as being an indicator for autism(???).
Makes one wonder if vampires are autistic.
No, vampires have rabies.
Autistim is the new ‘touched by god’.
That’s a very informal, essentially slang usage of the word. It’s so informal that it’s pointless to argue about whether it’s even correct. At any rate better word could certainly have been chosen.
Huh?
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/fetishism
Entry 1. and 3., I don’t think you know what you are talking about.
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literally what it means
Literally not
People treat words like divine tangible streams of meaning when they’re just sounds we make
Completely unrelated, seems like you have a bug up your butt about something else. Also I’m pretty sure nobody thinks that either, sorry a prescriptivist upset you but that has no relation to what I said.
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Either you’re using “literally” in a non-literal fashion, or you’re using it to make your statement even more incorrect.
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My tip: don’t argue with people who know not even the terms they are attempting to criticize the use of. +also they seem to be using a sockpuppet account to upvote themselves and write comments
Maybe, making it as incorrect as possible serves to prove a point which makes statement phrased correctly for the goal in mind?
Ding ding ding, we have a winner!
Wouldn’t quite call this “gigachad” behavior, but it’s good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you aren’t particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as “gigachad” because they’re steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).
Definitely autistic, possibly including the woman.
Everyone in this green text is autistic.
Everyone in
thisgreen text is autisticEveryone
in this green textis autistic
On this blessed day.
Speak for yourself.
On my blessed day.
Everyone on lemmy is autistic.
In my experience whether or not autistic folks understand individuals they’re much better at being civil. Particularly on anonymous platforms with minimal consequences like right hmya. The antithesis of course being those who only treat others with respect when there’d be consequences to not do so.
PS As a matter of record I hate you all.
That’s what makes it great
If this is true, then you’re almost certainly right.
thisevery
Yeah I don’t associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, it’s just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in today’s society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.
There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.
We don’t know whether the guy already tried saying ‘no’ in a nice way, though. Sometimes people just don’t get the hint, especially if one or both people in the interaction are neurodiverse.
I suppose that’s true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they aren’t to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasn’t picked up on?
I mean I have been hit on by people I’ve no interest in, and I’ve never been so rude. I’ve also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they weren’t to me at all. And I’m not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.
If she asked if she was annoying, she knew on some level.
When I was younger, I used to get so annoyed at hinting disinterest rather than outright stating it, but I eventually realized that if someone is interested and doesn’t have barriers to getting involved, they won’t be coy about it. If they are busy but otherwise interested in a date when asked, they’ll usually say more than “I have plans that day”, like “but I’m free on x day” or “maybe another time?” or “I’d love to go on a date with you but can’t that specific time”.
If they are evasive at all about it, they are either not interested in general and are just trying to be polite (NOT really for your sake, so don’t start about how you’d rather they be clear, it’s to protect themselves from the pieces of shit that get aggressive when they realize they don’t have a chance), or they have other shit going on that complicates any interest (like it’s hard for them to schedule a date ahead of time because they are already in a relationship and need a good excuse to get away for a date).
First line reminds me of office space
I’ve been in this literal exact situation. If it hadn’t happened 20 years ago I’d be worried this anon is talking about me
As an autistic woman who’s usually attracted to others on the spectrum, I am worried anon is talking about me
Sometimes i tell my girlfriend stories about weird people in my life and she’s like: yeah, she was into your autistic ass. Nonono, she was doing this and that… Oh honey.
Same, I’m such a dumb fuck! Nothing Gigachad about that.
Fake: woman interested in man
Gay: anon is jealous
Ungay: anon is a woman too.
Completlely flips the script, doesn’t it?
No, it’s just gay with extra steps
You must show your working
It’s gymnastics more than math.
Regay: anon is jealous of the guy, because she has a crush on the women following him.
Gigachads don’t shout, do they?
Or they only shout. No in between
I’M SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. YOUR DAD WAS A GREAT GUY!!!
As opposed to inaudibly shouting
An autistic gigachad, obviously.
Gigautist
