I lowkey believe the vast majority of monosexual people are actually bisexual people who have decided for one reason or another they will only date one gender.
I’m bisexual and pretty open about it… whenever men have had a few drinks around me and I mention it, so many start telling me all the men they are attracted to.
the whole “innate v.s. choice” dichotomy is toxic. claim it’s a choice, and society will force people to “choose” differently. insist that it’s innate and all those people you’re alluding to will conclude from their first sexual encounters that they could never choose to enjoy a different type of encounter.
Agreed. Honestly believe that no one is truly entirely hetero or homosexual. I mean, either of those existing is predicated on the existence of a strict gender binary. If gender is a spectrum, sexuality necessarily has to be as well.
Wholly agree, it’s a spectrum. I’m het, but that’s just a shorthand convenience label that says I’m for the most part attracted to people that don’t look like me, even if it’s not particularly useful or necessarily true, but I don’t think it’s a bad word if it’s helping express something I like.
When I do think it’s an awful word is when it’s used to restrict someone’s freedom in choosing a partner, or forcing someone’s view of themselves into a black and white stereotype, so it’s a rather loaded word at this point.
It’s just so simplistic and limiting for there to be words that treat attraction like a fixed trait. I’ve got to be straight, gay, bi, or some global descriptor for my own behaviour? That sucks.
Like maybe I’m straight, but in a “knows when dudes are hot and comfortable at kink parties” way, you know? There’s no word that doesn’t lump me in with loads of people I have nothing in common with.
I lowkey believe the vast majority of monosexual people are actually bisexual people who have decided for one reason or another they will only date one gender.
I’m bisexual and pretty open about it… whenever men have had a few drinks around me and I mention it, so many start telling me all the men they are attracted to.
It’s a really funny phenomenon
the whole “innate v.s. choice” dichotomy is toxic. claim it’s a choice, and society will force people to “choose” differently. insist that it’s innate and all those people you’re alluding to will conclude from their first sexual encounters that they could never choose to enjoy a different type of encounter.
It’s certainly more complicated than the dichotomy makes it out to be.
Agreed. Honestly believe that no one is truly entirely hetero or homosexual. I mean, either of those existing is predicated on the existence of a strict gender binary. If gender is a spectrum, sexuality necessarily has to be as well.
Wholly agree, it’s a spectrum. I’m het, but that’s just a shorthand convenience label that says I’m for the most part attracted to people that don’t look like me, even if it’s not particularly useful or necessarily true, but I don’t think it’s a bad word if it’s helping express something I like.
When I do think it’s an awful word is when it’s used to restrict someone’s freedom in choosing a partner, or forcing someone’s view of themselves into a black and white stereotype, so it’s a rather loaded word at this point.
It’s just so simplistic and limiting for there to be words that treat attraction like a fixed trait. I’ve got to be straight, gay, bi, or some global descriptor for my own behaviour? That sucks.
Like maybe I’m straight, but in a “knows when dudes are hot and comfortable at kink parties” way, you know? There’s no word that doesn’t lump me in with loads of people I have nothing in common with.
I’m throwing you in the “fun people” pile, so there’s another label ;)
I’m not even fun half the time I’m fuckin SLEEPY
If that is the case, then I’ve made that decision unknowingly from my own self